Have a Lovely Weekend.

“I’ve always hated frats, and I will always hate them, and I want to burn them to the ground.” Exactly. Thank you for saying this.

My subway hot take: ‘Greek Life’ is a toxic concept from start to finish. Residential fraternities and sororities are criminal protection and ethically dubious. What is the argument for them? Connections? But only to those chosen and wealthy enough to afford it. Service projects? Show me an example that can’t be recreated without exclusionary policies for membership. Make it make sense.

The Cornell situation BEGS a national conversation about porn’s influence on frat culture, and our culture writ large. Families need to talk to their kids about porn WAY earlier than anyone would want: do it for all of us! Appreciated this perspective from Emma Camp: “Pornography also frequently portrays what can politely be described as varsity-level sex acts—and, importantly, frames women as enthusiastic participants in these extreme behaviors. If your first exposure to adult sexuality is hardcore porn, and if it remains the primary lens through which you think about what sex is for, of course it will shape your preferences. Sex in porn is violent, degrading and extreme, and those who watch it constantly, as many men now do, will become habituated to violent, degrading and extreme sexual behaviors.” https://wsjfreeexpression.substack.com/p/porn-helps-explain-the-cornell-sexual

I teach What to Expect Postpartum class at a hospital and am adding that advice to dads to the curriculum. We say it, but I’ve never seen it said that way. Love!!

The Beth Kalb Cornell piece was brilliant, just brilliant. But I feel like a lot of people are missing a huge chunk by placing rage solely on the dumb as dirt boys. At first I was blaming the judge and jury for thinking any girl/woman would consent to gang rape. I mean, I suppose it could happen but, yeah – no. Her attorney was not up on their trauma-informed consulting method. Apparently she was too traumatized, understandably, to fully disclose how it all went down. And so because the court was constrained by her partial or incomplete testimony, they were not able to mete out justice even though gang rape is gang rape and should be obvious and the judge and jury should have pressed for more trauma-informed questioning during the trial. This is not the dark ages, for God’s sake, it’s the 21st century. If the courts and police are still not practicing trauma-informed interrogation, then wtf? If she was “complicit” would she have pressed charges? Sad.

when I met my husband he was a giant nerd who wore pajama pants during the day and ate candy for breakfast and cooked in the dorm kitchen. His favorite class was ‘womens studies’ and for his final paper he researched which men are most likely to assault women (surprise, it’s wealthy white conservative men). He’s now 40, raising 2 daughters, cooks all of our meals, protested downtown Minneapolis in -30 degrees, is on the PTO, gardens and reps his ‘radical feminist’ shirt regularly. I was *this close* to assault too many times in college and saw too many friends go through it. I hate frat boys and to this day in corporate america I can smell a former frat boy from a mile away and so thankful I married the antithesis of one.

My husband and I met in college. One of his biggest green flags was that he wasn’t in a frat and wasn’t interested in joining one, despite his other friends pledging freshman year.

My daughter (now 22) is obsessed with Pride and Prejudice. For her high school graduation gift, my mom and I took her to London for a week, including a guided tour of the filming locations. It was AMAZING and so so beautiful.

A nuanced perspective here – I was a member of a coed, professional fraternity in college and very involved as a volunteer beyond. Ours is a very different type of fraternity (quite a different purpose) but by simply sharing the name “fraternity” it has the ability to put us in a negative light. This organization was one of the best things I’ve ever done in my college and professional life and there is a whole professional association for them that is very proactive. I guess I just want to put this out there that you can be critical of and even hate fraternities and/or sororities, but if you hear of a professional one (just in general), please pause your immediate judgement to learn and understand more.

I’ve always had a problem with frats and thought they were rape dens that need to go. It’s the pack mentality – a group will do what an individual might not. The excuse that they are good for networking and service doesn’t wash – there’s loads of opportunities to meet those goals on a college campus. I knew a woman who lost a finger at a frat party, and that’s probably the least of injury that occurred there.

I’ve been thinking non stop about the cornell case but I’m going to comment on something a little lighter: kitchens. I love seeing kitchen before and after pics, however lately I find myself liking the before better. These small, simple, unfashionable kitchens to me are a window to a more simple and honestly better time. A time before excessive consumption and social media comparison. Before the wealth gap really exploded and housing prices sky rocketed. I don’t know, I’ve just been finding myself having these feeling when I see these. But of course, the after pictures are always beautiful.

I didn’t even click on the article but suddenly feel the need to paint my nails dark brownish-red. If anyone needs some cathartic tv to watch, PSA for Sweet/Vicious, which tragically only ran for one season, and is about an ethereal college blonde and her comic hacker sidekick making rapists scared again (no really, they hunt them down and hurt them). Obviously tw for rape and trauma, but I think it balances out to more fun than tragedy and I think it’s criminal that it’s not more known. You’ll have to hunt for it though, I don’t think it’s on any of the streamers (I wonder why).

The Cornell/frat thing is so wrenching. I know that my 21 year old son is one of the people who would call 911 to help his female friends, because he has done that, and he has called us in the middle of the night asking what more he should do (I credit the influence of his older sister more than our direct parenting). But I also know that he has gone through very lonely times at college, and maybe if frats were more of a thing where he goes, he would have joined (I doubt it, but who knows). This is in no way trying to excuse the Cornell 7 or call for less punishment for sexual assualt or rape. We have recently had three heartbreaking instances in our community of people I thought were trustworthy who have been arrested for child exploitation / child pornography. Someone who worked in the schools; the adult son of a friend of ours; and a very trusted faith leader, active in the progressive community, who I was very close with. This has rocked me to the core and left me feeling like I just don’t know what people are capable of doing.

Ohhh how this poem is absolutely marvellous… tense and right and full of promises… Thanks you for posting it ! I needed some beauty today, i’ve just read it…

Longtime reader, first time commenting. And, of all things, it’s the Cornell 7 that finally got me to comment. I didn’t want to keep thinking about the story, so I somewhat impulsively made a shirt, with all proceeds going to RAINN. A tiny act of witness and solidarity. Now, instead of the story, I picture a group of women wearing this shirt. Quiet, but strong and steady. “Jane Doe” is small like a name tag on the front, with “you are not alone” on the back. I liked the idea of one anonymous name with many women standing behind it. I’m not on social, so I’m sharing it here in case it resonates with anyone else who has been sitting with this too. If you want to wear it or help it travel, here it is: https://www.bonfire.com/jane-doe-you-are-not-alone/

I hate frats too. I always have. I also think they should be abolished. But I’m also really weary and concerned about drinking/drug culture on campuses both in and out of “greek life.” It seems like it’s normalized to get really fucked up as a college kid. This freaks me out as I have two teens leaving the nest soon. I wish it weren’t normalized. Ketamine is not normal! Getting blackout drunk should not be normal. It is never a woman’s fault if she is assaulted. EVER. But also, I don’t think we can talk about this incident without also talking about party culture on campuses. Women should have the right to party and be reckless without getting raped or assaulted. But there is never NOT a cost to being reckless whether you are a man or a woman. Whether drugs are involved or not. I’m writing this here to try to make sense of it myself and figure out where I stand. I don’t want my comment to be construed as blaming the victim in any way. I don’t feel that way. I’m just concerned about how hard college kids go with the substances all in the name of “partying” and experimentation.

We are so afraid of death in our culture, so removed. I’d like to think that is changing. I went to a friend’s funeral about ten years ago. Merijane was the best, she was a cancer surviver from a young age. finally it decimated her poor body and she was gone. She was so loved and surrounded by friends and family when she passed. It was a Jewish service; the first part in the synagogue. We then drove to the cemetery and someone sang a sad ballad as they lowered her casket. I threw in a silk rose I had had forever. We hugged each other and said our final goodbyes. It was beautiful and it was closure. I am no stranger to grief. I lost two young colleagues early in my career to pancreatic cancer. My mom passed away in 2000 from cancer.In 2013 my stepmother died suddenly. My father was devastated, they were married almost 40 years. Their best friend Paul who adored her killed himself shortly after. In 2015 my sister died suddenly in her sleep from complications of diabetes. My sister and I had the honor of nursing out in 2020. He had Parkinson’s ( his doctor told him old age would kill him first.) It was the first time we had lived with out dad since we were small. It was lovely to be able to give back to him. He thanked us every day. he developed a rare heart disease and his chest would fill with fluid. As time went on we had to drain him more often, it was difficult to swallow. His body was failing him, but he still had his brilliant mind. He was an amazing surgeon, home chef, carpenter and all around renaissance man. He had arranged to take his own life when living became too miserable. My sister and I and our beloved care worker Mirna sat with him as he slowly lost breath.To leave on his own terms was truly a gift. I feel more comfortable with death after that journey. The rituals help. I am no longer afraid.

Although I am fan of many of the shows featured, The New York Times list should be called ‘The Best 100 English speaking show’..I am sure there are many non English speaking show that should have made the list (I can think of Call My Agent from France and Gomorrah from Italy)

As a researcher and psychologist, I have to correct something about the article by Bess Kalb. She states that, “…researchers found that frats cause rape.” This is incorrect and it’s critical to note that they found a positive correlation, which is not causation. Note that this is not in any way intended to defend fraternies or the heinous crime and assault inflicted on Jane Doe. But there are far-reaching effects when people do not understand the research that they are citing — this is what has gotten us to misunderstandings like the anti-vax movement and other types of distrust in science. Also, saying that this is the cause is grossly oversimplistic and discourages us from looking at other influences that beget this behavior (i.e., it goes far beyond fraternity culture, and moreover, not all fraternities can be faulted for this behavior). We have a great deal of work to do as a culture in which violence against girls and women is accepted and perpetuated, starting with what happens in the home and moving toward macro-level influences.

The cornell situation has been so hard to process as someone who is a rape survivor and someone over halfway through a pregnancy with a baby boy. All I can think about is how to teach him to be the person who stands up to this monstrous behavior. It feels like toxic masculinity culture is a battle I will probably fight for the rest of my life.

I was in a sorority many years ago and I loved the whole experience, including the whole fraternity scene. I don’t share the same “frats are evil” sentiment that many here share but I do recognize that horrible things can and do happen when boys/men in that age group when exposed to shitty group-think. The same thing happens when you put a bunch of 18-22 year old guys in the military.

Too much segregation of any type has the potential for dehumanization of ‘the other.’ By late adolescence, early adulthood, men and women should actually be together more, not segregated into these immature ‘houses.’ Not to mention the proliferation and normalization of violent p*n over the past decade or more, which absolutely exacerbates it all. Time to get rid! They are a liability for all involved, including for the men themselves.

Thank you Joanna for so eloquently expressing what we’re all feeling. Something I only found out today though is that many many men aren’t getting fed anything about the Cornell news in their feeds/timelines/algorithms (!!!). Maybe worth checking in and possibly forwarding good posts to them? Also, we/they really really need to stoo calling anything fraternity related “greek” because it is an offence to anyone actually Greek.

Making friends as an adult is HARD. I always joke it’s dating without sex. My rule is I will invite you to hang out at least 3 times before I give up. The part that I think makes people most afraid is being rejected so you have to be brave and let it roll. Also see: hang out in your front yard, invite the neighbors, start a book club with 2 friends and everyone invites one person they know and then keep showing up. Good luck!

Today was the Pride in Paris and it was happy, strong and so full of people! I am so glad I was born in the 70s, we’ve seen major cultural changes and it helps me to cultivate hope. Also, no Heated Rivalry in the best tv show? No queer eye for the straight guy? So wrong! Love from Paris

The Pride & Prejudice cinematography video sent me straight back to my first watch of the 2005 film — I still think the dawn proposal scene is one of the most beautiful few minutes ever filmed. I run a small tool site called SaveBili, so I saved the clip to rewatch offline whenever I need a cozy autumn evening. Hope everyone has a lovely weekend!

I can’t even believe that fraternities still exist. Banish them all. Immediately.

Better Call Saul should be in the Top 10 of Top 100 TV shows of the 21st Century.

My 14 year old daughter went to her first high school football game as a freshman. A boy she didn’t know grabbed her by the shoulder and asked for her number. She said no. His friends were saying “no really he really wants your number.” She said no. He then said “how ‘bout a kiss” She responded with “how ‘bout a punch.” The boy got mad. Yelled at her and threatened to hurt her. She walked away with a friend. As proud as I am of her for expressing her thoughts clearly I am very worried about so many boys that seem broken. That think treating a girl like a human is a sign of weakness. This was right before news of the Cornell 7 broke. This is happening everywhere everyday and almost every woman I have known understands this. And yet the system persists. Burn it down.

I am not surprised that academic research found a causal relationship between fraternities and rape, but seeing it written out so factually like that is still shocking and so bleak. Bravo to the authors. This news dropped after news of a cocaine ring in a Penn State frat, and reports of abusive hazing rituals that happen literally every year. Why do we let these “clubs” persist when they are clearly nexuses or crime and abuse? I remember reading coverage of a death-by-hazing incident at my graduate alma mater and sitting with the parents’ perspective – you and your beloved child work so hard to get into a prestigious school where they are supposed to flourish but instead the school kills them. Not the administration of course, but it was the school environment killed then. Numerous people saw your son’s limp body and nobody helped him. I can’t imagine. Likewise the shocking words from the Cornell case have been ringing in my ears. Schools are handed people’s precious children at a vulnerable time and they have an obligation to keep them safe. I’m grateful I went to an undergrad where the frat culture was not pervasive. I feel even more strongly today that I would never send my child to one where being part of a frat or “eating club” were the norm.

Somewhere along the way, we’ve collectively lost the language between “tattling” and “telling.” My teenage son has had ugly interactions with a family in our community, whose child hurts people including my children, and my son has pulled this child off of other kids and looked around at the adults present who are doing nothing. And he looks at me with confusion wondering if HE is doing the right thing for intervening or telling an adult, because he gets blamed for helping. I don’t know the inner workings of the lives of the young adults at Cornell, but I can understand a little bit of the fear of doing the right thing and the reality of “none of the people in power will do anything anyway.” I never thought I’d get to a place as a parent where I’d say, “if you’ve tried peaceful means and someone is still physically hurting another person in front of you, pull them off and punch them in the face.” But I have gotten there. It’s devastating that my teenage son is the most mature man in most rooms.

I went to Cornell, and I dropped out of Cornell because of my not unrelated experience at Cornell. It’s been a hard few weeks, over a decade later. Check on your friends.

Re the “Cornell seven” case: Years ago I read about the work of Nicole Bedera who, if I recall correctly, did her PhD about the horrifically unfair treatment of perpetrators and survivors of sexual violence on campus. I always think about her when another story hits the news. She actually came out with a book on the topic two years ago: “On the Wrong Side: How Universities Protect Perpetrators and Betray Survivors of Sexual Violence” https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/210450916-on-the-wrong-side

When I was in university I stopped by the house of a group of male friends to drop something off. While I stood in the doorway and chatted with one friend I overheard the rest of the group in the next room talking. They didn’t know I was there. They were joking about how one of them rapes girls. “We all know Cam rapes girls”. These were close friends of mine or so I thought, and I never went back to that house again. I think men know which of their friends are dangerous. It scares me to think about what the men I know and love have observed and said nothing to.

Re: Cornell. I keep thinking about how so many men lack integrity. Integrity is doing the right thing when no one is watching AND doing the right thing even when everyone else is doing the wrong thing. And not a one of those men who read the text message had integrity. It is so deeply disturbing.

The Cornell news has been tough to stomach. How little we have progressed in the twenty years since I started college. For anyone who is hurting, I’m right there with you. For anyone who is struggling to have a dialogue with men in your life about this, sometimes outsourcing the mental labor can help. The book Missoula by Jon Krakauer is a good place to start. It was published in 2015, is just as relevant today, if not more so.

Dear CoJ community, do you have tips on handling self administered subcutaneous injections? I need to do this daily over several weeks, and am a wimp when it comes to needles all my life. Luckily my husband is up for helping (he’s been doing a great job!) We know it’s best if I can do this independently in case one of us needs to travel for work. All tips related to physical, mental and emotional aspects are so appreciated.

I agree with the top 3 best shows. I am so happy to see The Office UK at such a high rank. It’s one of my all time favorites as well as the US version. I was happy to see that Gilmore Girls made the cut, but sad to discover that The Big Bang Theory didn’t. Oh well, so many good shows out there to watch and rewatch!

coming back after reading the good guy with a text substack. I can feel this experience in my bones, all of it shockingly familiar

Re: Cornell case: We to hold every person who saw that text and DID NOTHING accountable. I read that it was at least 50 people. WTF

Ooh, I would love details about Alison’s joint birthday party – I am hoping to do the same thing with my husband in a year!

The Cornell Case is infuriating and heartbreaking. Frat houses should be torn down and abolished. I’m exhausted. Is there peace anywhere in this world?

I miss my late grandparents more and more as I approach the age they would have been when I was born. looking at pictures of my grandmother in her late forties and recognising something of myself. And then I catch myself saying something she would have said or my son approaching someone with my grandfather’s easy confidence and think “there you are! not gone at all!”

Re: 100 Best TV shows…I would put The Wire at #1 over Breaking Bad. Both well done and I loved Breaking Bad so much, but The Wire changed how I view society and is a show I think about often. Good to see Better Things on there getting recognition…a TV show I learned about from the Cup of Jo comments that portrayed motherhood and family so well.

Just landed in San Diego to be with my dad as he passes, and to love my mom and sister through it. While I am deeply sad, I’m so grateful for the beautiful community and our prescient conversation about death and dying. My dad has lived a long time in a painful body, and while I don’t know what happens next for him, the cells in my soul know that he will be free and of joy, and my community (including you) will hold me up.

Re Cornell, what a terrible, tragic mess. Clearly the facts are not all out, and there will be much more revealed about this nightmare. But after reading Bess’ piece, I think there is a harder conversation to have than simply “raise better sons.” Of course we need to raise boys who understand consent, respect women, intervene when friends cross lines, and have the courage to walk away from a group that expects their silence. Absolutely. What bothers me about the “raise the son who…” mantra is that it turns an extraordinarily complicated problem into a satisfying moral slogan. Yes, we need to raise decent sons. We also need to raise confident, informed daughters, and saying that is not blaming women for what happens to them. Universities need to create safer environments and impose meaningful consequences. We also need to confront fraternities, sororities, and other social cultures and practices that can increase risk. Simply shutting down particular organizations will not solve the larger problem; other groups and hierarchies will just take their place. But there is also an irony buried in the “raise better sons” rhetoric. Our culture has historically assigned women disproportionate responsibility for the moral and emotional formation of children. So when the answer to male violence becomes “raise your sons better,” responsibility subtly migrates, from adult men, male institutions, and the institutions that tolerate or enable destructive behavior to the people who supposedly failed to raise those men correctly. And we all know who usually gets handed that bill: mothers. There is something deeply disquieting about responding to misogyny by once again making women responsible for producing better men.

My teens are close in age to yours, and they are hard to please and very hungry! Your recipe recommendations lately have been excellent. I want to try them all. Thanks!

Wait. Did the Sopranos not make the list of 100 best TV shows? My eyes suck, so maybe I missed it…

I only recently read about Brooke and her fight with ALS as a very young woman. She exhibited wit and vulnerability in her social media posts. My heart breaks for her loved ones. Rest in Peace, sweet Brooke. “Brooke Eby, Who Brought Humor and Awareness to A.L.S., Dies at 37 After her diagnosis in 2022, when she was only 33, she became a vocal, witty advocate for people confronting the disease.” Gift link https://www.nytimes.com/2026/10/02/obituaries/brooke-eby-dead.html?unlocked_article_code=1.F1E.3Ykj.YRL3TNJTMN04&smid=url-share

Re: the 100 best tv shows, I was glad to see Derry Girls on the general public’s NYTimes list. It didn’t make the original list. I don’t think enough people of the gen pop have seen the wonderful British version of The Office.

I just wanted to say that, while Cup of Jo is really truly consistently great and an essential part of my life and routines, I feel like it’s somehow even better lately. I really appreciated the discussion on death, and Joanna, I am just so impressed with how you manage to offer both a soft landing, and regular, pointed acknowledgment that things are fucked up. Thank you to you and the whole team. I’m so grateful you’re all here.

Re: the Cornell case…as the Mom of a 13 year old girl, she brought this up before I even had a chance to, in the car. She already knew, she is horrified, and scared and disgusted. We’ve been talking about colleges, she wants to be a Pediatric nurse (a profession recently named “NOT a profession, by the trump regime, thereby limiting federal loans and funds); and she wants to go out of state. Aside from just the horrific nature of these crimes, we will be SURE she goes to a state where women’s health care is intact, including reproductive rights, and to a school which takes the safety and autonomy of it’s students seriously. As a girl who suffered several sexual assaults myself, in and out of college, I take it as my highest priority for her going forward – there are things we cannot control. There are things we can control tho, and where we send her to college is definitely one of them. Every single college needs its records of assault, rape, and investigative results to be made public. It is long past time for this to END. This includes hazing, death, and assaults of young men as well. These institutions MUST be held accountable to the people we entrust to them.

Beautiful poem. This week I’ve been thinking about my mum’s death (she died of cancer in 2020) and that I don’t want to think of it as something bad that has happened to her. We all die. I don’t want to think of the last big thing that happened to/for her was a terrible thing. I know that is not the case for all death because some deaths are awful and unfair and cruel. Many many sadly are. For my mum, her death was too early for us and possibly for her and cancer feels unfair but or and it was part of her life. I was talking to someone about how she had called me one day about an idea for her funeral. She was so excited because she could picture us all there – a chance for us all to be together and in the pandemic we all craved that. She was bringing us together in her last days and it was a beautiful time. When I told the story to someone they didn’t know how to react and momentarily I felt bad but then as I told the story they relaxed and they could get to know my mum a bit. That’s a nice thing.

On Wednesday, my hairdresser brought up Cornell and what it meant to her. Walking home afterwards in old city Philadelphia, I passed three women ranting in righteous rage about the latest development and I stopped to discuss. On Thursday, I attended a fundraiser in NYC and the man sitting next me asked the table “how are you talking to your sons about Cornell?”. I have been flooded by texts from enraged friends about it since the news broke. But only one friend brought up the wretchedness of fraternities. Sexual assault happens everywhere, and university sexual assault is not just at Cornell, obviously. But I feel like this obviously connection to the toxic nature of Greek life is just not a part of the discussion. Thank you for this link. It’s excellent.

Also : Joanna, I also love this place as a comforting place, and I admire your ability (and the one of your team!) to gather women and people from so different places. I feel like it takes a lot of care and openness. But when you allow yourself to get angry like in your words about the Cornell case, it feels healing and helping from me. We’re so educated to stay calm and polished in every situation that your anger is necessary and restorative.

On the “Death” comment: I’ve never been afraid of death. Maybe because I grew up in a big and wide family filled with physicians, where death was discussed and analyzed. So I learned that 100 no matter how good and dedicated a physician one could be, we have zero control. Or maybe because of a loving Catholic upbringing with caring nuns that taught me that everything has a season and everything is born, grows, and eventually dies. Seemed pretty straightforward to me. I could not get away from it, skip it or trick it, so I decided to live as much and as wide and as deep all the days of my life. Until my daughter was born. Then came the dread, the anxiety, the useless worry about not being here for her, not being able to tend to her, to listen to her. I cried and I prayed and talked to everyone I was able to about it. This dread. Of the inevitable. Then, after many days and many nights, it came to me: the more love, the more care I give my child, the more I listen to her, the more I’m a witness to her loveliness, then the more of me will remain after I’m no longer incarnate. If my spirit and all the love I feel for her (I could fill houses, building really with it), remains with her, then death it’s just death. The next adventure. I’m not ready for it yet, but I pray, I wish, that when it comes, I can look back and say I did my best, because I loved.

Clinique has nail polish in Black Honey right now. It’s the perfect bordeaux shade.

About the soundtrack of our lives, I luckily found this song while going through a deep grief, and it became the song of this grief. It comforted me and still does. It’s a cover of Green Grass of Tom Waits by 2 young French singers : https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=jRPM7kyoPhs&list=RDjRPM7kyoPhs&start_radio=1&pp=ygULR3JlZW4gZ3Jhc3OgBwE%3D

Why is it that every woman I know knows a woman who was raped in college. Tonight I asked my husband, who went to Cornell, if he knew any women raped in college. He said he did not. Does anyone in this community know a man who knows of a woman raped in college?

What a lovely poem. My deat friend from college passed away 19 years ago this month from very aggressive breast cancer that was first discovered when she was about 22. I will send this to her husband and our friend group. I think of her often and love her so much. Thank you.

Heartily agree with you about frats, and I resonated with Bess’s points as well. I don’t think excising fraternities from colleges will end rape culture, but I do believe it’s a necessary step.

BAWLING. Thank you so much for sharing that stunning poem.

White chicken chili is so good.

Today I am just done. BURN IT ALL DOWN. We are living in a polycrisis and it is impossible to decide what to be maddest about at any moment. Rape Culture. War. Genocide. Stripping of basic human rights. Fascism. Environmental Destruction. Inequality. Racism. Transphobia. Anti-Science/Anti-Vaxxers etc. ETC. ETC. I hate this timeline for everyone in the world. I know we are supposed to start small and vote and be agents of change in our own communities, and I do these things, but, it feels hopeless.*primal scream into the void*