Come Have Breakfast With Us This Weekend

Here you go!

Yes, here you go!

yes!!!

We have a site in Charleston, SC, and I am very disappointed in the quality in person. It’s so beautiful online, but I agree, I think to spread sales locations, the quality will dip.

Thanks Hannah :)

You have to have a slippery logic if this doesn’t fall into fast fashion… it does frequent product drops, lots of items, mass produced, declining quality and its marketing – by releasing new items sometimes weekly, they create a sense of urgency and scarcity that encourages frequent consumption, and we all know this is a core feature of fast fashion. Just because we like their clothes doesn’t make them an ethical choice.

it is very much a fast fashion brand.

here is a similar option, https://rothys.com/products/double-buckle-mary-janes-revelvet-red-crisp

Yes, thanks Kara! I missed the last Cup of Jo Bay Area event years ago and just told my husband that if it happens again and even if it’s on a random Tuesday afternoon, I will go, and I live in the Sacramento area!

I second this!!!

I’m in for this!!

Agreed! And Agnes, I will carpool from Sacramento with you :)

This!!!

Hello! We would so so love to have you there, this event sold out very quickly! We hope to have more events very soon :)

Yes me hahah!

+1

Hahahaha yes!

I dream of visiting NM Rebecca!! Someday….. it’s the one state in the west I’ve never made it to yet.

I love NM. It truly is the land of enchantment.

Yes! No Kings – also going to that!

Yes – No Kings on the calendar here too!

No Kings ❌️👑

No Kings!!!!!!

Sending support from the UK to all No Kings protesters!

Its hard but please don’t numb yourself, take action. No Kings!

2) Meditation is life changing!

I love these questions Anna. 1. I became anti vax when my first baby was small. I began motherhood trusting science and medicine, at least to a degree. But several things happened, compounding each other, and I began to question. Before long I found myself in an echo chamber of other moms who didn’t vaccinate. (This was the late 90s/00s, the Wakefield era, most antivax people were leftists). A lot happened to bring me back, and by the time of the pandemic I was fully awakening to the very many lies I’d believed. Stefanie over at Critikid on IG made several posts about my story earlier this year, and just reran them recently, if anyone would like more details. I share more in the comments there as well. I love this question because we should all be examining our beliefs and ideas and holding them up to critical thought. And we should be willing to about when we’re wrong. I can tell you from personal experience, being wrong about something this big is painful. It’s also very human. I want others to be brave enough to help me normalize speaking up when we know we’ve been wrong. It’s more important now than ever. And it’s important to really listen to how people got it so wrong, with empathy. We are all susceptible to being wrong. 2. I’m handling the world/ life/ a lot more gray days than I care for by: running with my dog in the mountains, weekly therapy, the joy of our new puppy, really trying to notice the magic of nature. Even the low gray skies and icy wind. Oh, and soup and bread might!!! (Bread can be soup dumplings, corn bread, biscuits, homemade baked dinner rolls….. it’s so comforting)

https://www.instagram.com/critikid?igsh=cHZucGF0aG12bnN1 There’s the link to Critikid on IG, oops!!

Not numb, *resilient* Great post ideas :)

2) I wouldn’t call it “numbing,” but something that helps me with the anguish of living in these times is trying to do small things regularly, like signing up to write for a Postcards To Voters campaign (postcardstovoters.org), setting up a monthly donation, or placing a few calls based on 5 Calls (5calls.org) or other coordinated campaigns. As someone who suffers from major depression even when the world isn’t quite as on fire, as much as I want to numb myself, this practice of action is the only thing that calms me enough to be able to sleep at night (and even then it’s not always enough). If anyone has other suggestions of daily/weekly actions like these, I would welcome them! And I’ll see y’all out there on Saturday for No Kings (LA) <3

Not so much recently, but I have gone back and forth on the death penalty and abortion. I am now 70 and was sexually assaulted when I was in. my 20’s. During my 20s and 30’s I believed strongly in the death penalty, but changed my mind as I grew to believe that even people who do unspeakable harm to others deserve to have a chance of atonement.

Elizabeth, thank you so much for your comment. I would really love to hear more from you about this, navigating a long life after somehthng so awful. I’m 52, and was also sexually assaulted (when I was 18). At the time I didn’t let myself care about it too much (but I suspect from the shaved head, and dangerous behaviour that I actually cared very much). The thing I struggle with now that I am a mum, is how do I tell my son what happened to me? I never see stories from women in the decades after their assaults. But maybe that’s selfish, it isn’t like this is a story I tell anyone, yet I crave to hear it from others. I am so sorry we don’t just forget. I sometimes wonder if the man who did this to me thinks about me half as much as I have to think of think of him. I too like to think that there is a place for atonement of some sort.

1. Sounds like a really great idea for a Cup of Jo post, but nothing to contribute here. My mind is forever in progress and continuously confused. Would love to read stories about this! 2. I try to keep the serenity prayer in mind. “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.” My mum had this framed in her home office and it has helped me find balance over the years.

Kirby and Elizabeth – I would love to hear more from both of you. At 65 I’m beginning to understand events in my life that I never considered assault, but were assaults – because it was my fault, right? – How we change and grow in our understanding of ourselves, others, events, forgiveness, over the years is profound. I’d love to hear more from the older women in this community.

Anonymous – I know, that feeling that it was all our fault – it’s utterly bewildering that we do that to ourselves. For me, I thought it was my fault because I went to his room to listen to a CD (bloody twin peaks soundtrack had just been released)… It was only a few weeks later I learned that college boys were drugging girl’s drinks, then I understood why I’d felt dizzy then forgot. But we lived in a world where it made the world function better if we took the blame upon ourselves, or even worse, accepted it as part of being female! If you need to hear this it couldn’t ever be your fault – even if you walked butt naked down main street, consent is everything. I have a friend whose mum was raped when she was nine years old by an old man in the town, and her father beat her in punishment then sent her to boarding school for the rest of her schooling life. No wonder women everywhere pretended it had not happened. Those are the stories we whisper to one another. My friend’s mum stored all that away for most of her life but now she is 83 the memories keep pushing through, I am so sad that that monster gets to occupy her final years. Please don’t let your monsters do that to you. I’m holding your hand in my heart.

Kirby – thank you, thank you, thank you.

If we could just have an animated map of Earth with all the Cup of Jo readers waving frantically (with smiles) on Sunday morning wishing we were there…maybe Grace can draw it :)

I’ll be waving from Belgium!

New Zealand! I think it’ll be night time here so you’ll need to look hard in the dark to see me waving :).

I will be waving from Istanbul, Turkiye :)

Seconding! Would love an event in Atlanta :)

Is Atlanta getting a Boden retail store?