Have a Sweet Weekend.
What are you up to this weekend? Toby and I went to the Liberty basketball game last night, and the stadium was absolutely electric! Can’t wait to see more WNBA games. Hope you have a good one, and here are a few fun links from around the web…
Whoa, this psychological test about success blew my mind.
After our watch post, a few people requested ideas for watches under $50, so here are five: chain, ’80s, green, brown, rose, and especially this silver Casio, which feels deeply cool.
A Northern Michigan road trip, be still my heart. And don’t forget the sand dunes! (NYT gift link)
My sister wore cherry earrings to dinner a few weeks ago, how cute are they?
40 favorite interview questions, including “What’s the difference between someone who’s great in your role versus someone who’s outstanding?” and “How did you prepare for this interview?” and “Among the people you’ve worked with, who do you admire and why?”
After watching Tina Fey’s The Four Seasons, I’m curious to watch the Alan Alda movie that inspired it.
Ooh, I wish I could vote for Annie Andrews, MD, for South Carolina senator. Her campaign video is funny and razor sharp.
The cool way to style a button-up shirt, according to Somsack Sikhounmuong. (Big Salad, loved his issue)
Love this family photo.
How to stay at a friend’s house without apologizing the whole time, haha.
Plus, four reader comments:
Says Colleen on what’s a kind thing someone’s done for you: “After my daughter died, a package appeared in the mail. It was Stevie Wonder’s Songs in the Key of Life, along with a note from my friend, saying: ‘When I heard about the birth of your daughter, I played Isn’t She Lovely and danced. Now every time it comes on, I think of her sweet spirit and dance. I thought maybe you guys might want to do it, too.’ She gave me something joyful to do with my grief that felt more like a celebration of her life. Now my son and I put it on to have dance parties, a ritual that keeps her alive in our family. What a gift.”
Says Ellen on what’s a kind thing someone’s done for you: “I was at a natural history museum with my not-yet-diagnosed autistic three-year-old. In the throws of potty training, he CLEARLY needed to use the potty, but was having an absolute meltdown. As I talked him through the experience (clearly and very loudly), and he cried, I was feeling like such a bad mother. As we got out of the bathroom stall and were washing hands, a very sweet college student said, ‘I wish my mom would have talked to me like that when things were hard.’ It made me feel seen and like my son was seen and that maybe a hard moment was actually a success.”
Says Robin on what’s a kind thing someone’s done for you: “When I was a teenager, my mom was struggling with alcohol addiction, and I was sent to live with my dad. I often scheduled lunches with her, and more often than not, she would cancel. Once, I was waiting for her at a French restaurant (before the days of cell phones) when the hostess approached and said, ‘Are you Robin? I’m so sorry, honey. Your mom just called, and she’s not coming.’ I burst into tears, and the woman immediately offered to buy my lunch. I thanked her but said no. Instead, I ordered a meal and sat by myself. Just before I left, she came up to my table, laid a hand on my shoulder, and gently put down a box of baked treats from their bakery. I still tear up when I think of that incredibly kind gesture from a stranger. (And on a wonderful side note, my mom is about to hit her 10-year anniversary of getting sober!)”
Says Anna K on what’s a kind thing someone’s done for you: “The day after I came home from the hospital with my firstborn, I was home alone, nursing, stuck in my chair, unable to stand up because the C-section scar hurt so much, and looking around at the absolute catastrophe that was my living room. Right when I thought, ‘This is it, this is the rest of my life now,’ my neighbor dropped by a cheese toastie and fruit salad, and I’m moved to tears 11 years later just thinking about it.”
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174 commentsSo the interview question: “What’s the difference between someone who’s great in your role versus someone who’s outstanding?” bugs me. We have such a scarcity mindset in this society that it’s not enough to be “great” you have to be “outstanding”. Everyone should have an opportunity to have a steady employment, adequately compensated (this means a living wage so you can afford housing, food, healthcare, quality of life). Even the folks that are just “great”.
I have been thinking about the psychology test, and if I were in that class, I would have had a very different take on it: Why is the prof offering to give this blanket grade? 1) because your tired/busy and don’t feel like taking the time to grade all the papers or 2) because in your experience you have determined that the majority of the class actually deserves this grade, and those who don’t have worked hard and – while they might not pass a test with that grade, they still can have the pat on the back for their effort? I trust that most professors/teachers/instructors actually care for their students and are better at accessing their students achievements than maybe other students are. I have taught in a variety of situations and have, at times, said to a group – you all did well today, you all get 100’s! or A’s! and no one ever came to me and said wait a minute, not everyone deserves that! I can understand a teacher saying you know – you all deserve this. I am sure I am reading too much into this, but I am saying – if I were in that class, I would raise my hand and ask what the professor’s motivation was before deciding (I would vote for everyone. I would also explain the issue that I often had to deal with, that some students are so concerned with the number – the competition – it’s okay, you passed, give yourself a break, don’t focus so much on the grade! and if they are concerned that they might have rec’d a higher grade if they had taken the test, then let them take the test to find out.) Anyway, everyone has probably already moved on from this, but I have been thinking about it so thought I would get it off my chest. Thanks and have a great week!
I was inspired to buy myself a watch this weekend. I had my eye on the silver or gold one, but went with the gunmetal one. I love it!! https://www.casio.com/intl/watches/casio/product.A130WEGG-1A/
That is a boss watch, AMK!
as someone who lives in SC and has been so disheartened by all of sc politics- Annie has immediately lifted my hopes!!! I actually hadn’t seen her video til this post and I immediately sent it to all my friends! thank you thank you!
Agree! It made me super emotional! Love that women like Dr. Andrews are rising up and fighting back by running for office! More more more!
WNBA games are so fun!! Glad you and Toby got to go!!
Hi, wondering why my original comment about the Amazon links didn’t make it on? Genuinely curious about the change of heart. Thank you.
I think it did? thank you for your note. it’s not a change of heart, but instead consistent with our big shift away from amazon, which we are so happy and glad to do, even though it’s a major revenue hit for our business — our strategy is to link ALL books to bookshop.org or independent booksellers, not amazon at all anymore. we also link to small businesses, Etsy, or secondhand vendors whenever we can (as you can see in the watch round-up). we link to amazon only when there isn’t a small business to link to instead, or if the small business isn’t verified by us (in the past, we’ve gladly personally reimbursed people when a business doesn’t fulfill the order or has delayed shipping, and it’s added up to thousands of dollars; now we try to link to businesses that we have used ourselves). hope this helps!
Makes sense, thanks for clarifying:-)
Yes, you have to watch the Alan Alda/Carol Burnett movie of The Four Seasons! I’m old so I remember it fondly (but honestly not old enough that I should have been such a fan). I enjoyed the series, but the movie is soooo good.
This weekend, we watched another horrific attack perpetrated against the Jewish community, this time in Boulder, the reverberations of which are felt by all Jews in America. Will anyone mention it on CoJ or will we continue to ignore the ever worsening antisemitism crisis happening here? I am heartsick.
Cup of Jo does a great job speaking out! See this from a post just last week “The Gaza genocide is devastating, and we should be pushing our government to stop sending money and weapons. But, of course, Jewish people should not be targeted! No one should be attacked because of their identity — whether you’re Jewish, Palestinian, Muslim, Israeli, LGBTQ+, etc. It’s hard to know what to say; sending love to friends and readers who experience and fear rising antisemitism.” She also included hyperlinks for folks to learn more, they just won’t copy and paste. Feel free to browse her many posts (and her social media which is more regularly updated).
Anon, we live in Colorado and were horrified at this attack. Anyone attacking anyone, anywhere, for their identity is simply not okay and – in these Trumpian times – becoming more sanctioned due to hateful rhetoric from the White House and the right. Our hearts break for the Jewish community and many other marginalized communities right now. Violence is not the answer. I appreciate the many ways that the CoJ community holds space, talks about lots of important issues and also brings joy. The world is messy and complicated. Sending you a hug 💜
There is enough hate going on between Isreal and Hamas. As we can see it is spreading to other individuals- as hate tends to do. Let’s all pray for peace and loving kindness. Other people should stop injecting their opinions onto conflicts on this planet unless they are voicing calls for peace and love. Pray peace and love, think peace and love, follow peace and love.
This is not a news site, stop guilting CoJ into responding to each issue. But: will anyone mention that more than 20 people were killed in Gaza at a food distribution site by Israeli soldiers? https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/01/world/middleeast/gaza-aid-distribution-site-attack.html
Hi Anon. I think Joanna actually did mention it in last weekend’s roundup: “But, of course, Jewish people should not be targeted! No one should be attacked because of their identity — whether you’re Jewish, Palestinian, Muslim, Israeli, LGBTQ+, etc. It’s hard to know what to say; sending love to friends and readers who experience and fear rising antisemitism.”
It is absolutely horrific. It does not bring peace to anyone 💔
It feels like nothing Jo says, always in good faith with good intentions with her heart as broken as anyone’s, is ever enough. It must be quite exhausting for her and her team. She is not responsible for healing our broken world, she is a blogger. A person who tries. It would be lovely, just once, to not see her, and this community attacked, when those who are perpetrating the violence aren’t even mentioned by the poster. Please, direct your condemnation towards THEM. Just as easy to say “I am heartbroken by the violence directed against the Jewish community in Boulder this weekend. Here is a link with how to help……”
Not ignoring it. I am very aware, as I’m sure most people are. I follow current news via other sources.
Anon, Jo and co have actually been one of the most even-keeled voices in this atrocity. Surely they were allowed to have a weekend break and are allowed to post their planned posts this morning. What happened in Boulder was horrific, hands down, anyone who says otherwise is on the wrong side of history. We can hate what’s happening in Gaza AND want to bring the hostages home AND be horrified by what happened in Boulder and in DC last week. I should never have to qualify what I’m saying with “and I am an American Jewish person” but I am.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zDtBqvfm7vY Anyone catch this interview or read her memoir?
This weekend, we watched the Knicks close out their season. So proud of them for having an excellent year! We headed out to Crown Heights to go to the Brooklyn Arts Festival in the Brooklyn Children’s Museum. One of my 5th graders has a painting displayed in the museum for the festival, so my husband, kids and I headed over to support him and bask in so much pride for him. There are so many amazingly talented artists in our Brooklyn schools! The art is on display till June 15th if anyone wants to go check it out We ate lunch at Nawabi Bhoj, a delicious Bangladeshi restaurant (the biryani and aloo bhaji- potato stir fry are highly recommended). We picked up some pies from Abu’s Homestyle Pies (my daughter wanted a pumpkin pie…in June lol. She likes what she likes I guess.) Picked up some keffiyehs and headed on home. I started Somebody, Somewhere this weekend and am now on my couch reading Home Before Dark by Riley Sagar after having just finished Martyr! by Kaveh Akbar. Hope everyone enjoyed their weekends and as always Free Palestine 🇵🇸 all day.
SWATCH! yes! Bring ’em back.. remember the multiples and the little rubber face protectors. So glad I grew up with insane 80s and 70s (as a little) styles.
Being a teenager in the 80s was “So Choice” (quoth Ferris Bueller). My grown son is kind of jealous.
Annie Andrews is fabulous. I’m not in SC but I will 100% support her – let’s help her get all the attention!
Oh wow I love the What’s a Kind Thing Someone did for you stories so much. I hope I have done things that others have found to be kind over the years. This certainly inspires me to get out of my head (it’s been a doozy of a few years now and am still recovering from some of it), and take a look around at what others are going through. Little, spontaneous acts of kindness are the best.
WNBA games are so fun! I can’t wait to take my toddler son when he’s a little older. Let’s go Liberty!
Sharing some weekend reading. This is an excellent, thought-provoking article on boys, men, masculinity, and the need to address the state of it all. The interview is with Richard Reeves, founder of the American Institute of Boys and Men, and author of Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do About It, which he dedicated to his three sons. The article is from the most recent issue of The Sun magazine, which is the best magazine ever (no questions will be taken). https://www.thesunmagazine.org/articles/594-under-construction
Have not read the article yet, but would like to suggest, if you haven’t already, to check out the podcast If Books Could Kill’s episode on Of Boys and Men. They discuss some of the (pretty apparent) flaws in Richard Reeves’ book/argument around masculinity and is worth a listen to. https://www.buzzsprout.com/2040953/episodes/16742776-of-boys-and-men
Claire, thank you for this!!!! So much to think about
Colleen, Ellen, Robin, and Anna K…….you’re killing me. Just killing me. And thank you all for those sweet stories.
Sooooo I’m autistic and I actually don’t like the way the psychology professor worded those options. I feel like most of those 20 nay-voters would also have been autistic. Because a blanket score is meaningless; you might as well have no score. It doesn’t make sense. Things need to make sense! And the closest option he provided to that was the fourth option, but it was worded in a really skewed and mean-sounding way. So I don’t take away from this that those 20 people are selfish or petty at all. Some people will earn 100% and deserve to be credit with that. Others will earn 30% and deserve to be credited with that. I hope he retries next year with the fourth option being “A blanket score renders the result meaningless” instead of “I don’t want someone to get a mark as good as me”, which is WILDLY different but probably the closest of all the options. (Anyone thinking that option 3 is closer – “I don’t deserve this mark” – would also be miles off because autistic people work 90-140% harder than neurotypical people on average. We are much more likely to work really hard and not be recognised for it. So I don’t think “I don’t deserve this mark” is the right option either.)
I appreciate you highlighting this perspective. I struggle parenting an autistic son who thinks very, very deliberately and yet I read this article and it didn’t occur to me to see this scenario from their point of view.
It’s not meaningless if it factors into your GPA. Painting all autistic people as the same feels reductive to me
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You’re absolutely right – I should have said I bet “a disproportionate amount” of the 20 people would be autistic. We are definitely not all the same – autistic people might perhaps even before more diverse in personality than NT people as we aren’t constrained by social norms or what’s popular / normal. Thank you for your thoughtful comment!
Yeah, a professor polling a class this way is not a personality test. Where’s the research to show that this one question, with the small number of multiple choice answers this one dude wrote himself, says anything reproducible about the personalities of anyone answering it? It’s total BS and the takeaway should be not that the students polled were [fill in the blank as you wish] but that the prof was not teaching with any respect for actual validated research methods or the evidence base.
I can’t vote for Dr. Andrews (I’m Canadian), and I donated! The whole world needs more logical, compassionate and unafraid women leaders in power!
Wow, you weren’t kidding about the Psychological Test article. It was fodder for a lot of discussion around here this weekend. So essentially for some, it’s not enough to win. Someone else has to lose. I think this article helped me understand why some people vote against their own interests. Obviously it’s not quite as simplistic as that but if an individual has this personality trait, it plays a significant part in their decision making.
So pumped to see the WNBA here! Go Liberty!
Also…WNBA ALL THE WAY!!! We follow our local University women’s team and they are the best – games are so exciting!
Thanks for another great links post, I am interested in the psychology test – so apt, so true. And the 10% always seems to win…also love the personal stories, so moving. I am forwarding the link to Annie Andrews (yes, please!) to everyone I know. This weekend we are preparing our postcards for the Majority Project (I can’t link it here, but I found the link on CoJ earlier, also through Signs of Justice) sending one to every republican rep in our state & some outside; was told “you are only supposed to send them to YOUR representatives” and I said “they are ALL our representatives!” We can’t do everything but we have to do something.
I disagree about the success quiz. Only around 30% of Americans are college graduates. Student loan forgiveness is focused on a small part of the country, which means s why I can understand the real tension people feel in this proposal. It targets a class of people for a windfall. Nothing is free, so who gets government or collective help? The government ISN’T doing what it can. They could lower the usurious interest rate of these loans and make them easier to manage over the decades that it will take to repay them.
for a windfall? are you kidding? as a millennial who was laid off during the 2008 recession (and as someone who has yet to recover from that catastrophe) I listened with the president of the united states (bush) at that time said, student loan debt is good debt, go back to school and there will be good jobs when you leave, that was his actual position and words post 2008 obliteration. I listened and did that, and there were not good jobs after and there have not been good jobs after and it took more than ten years in the public sector for my loans to be forgiven, ten years of working for less than a living wage, of putting having kids on the back burner, knowing I will never own a home, etc. and etc. believe me, when my loans were finally forgiven on January 3rd of this year, there was no windfall in my bank account nor will there be for anyone else with student loan forgiveness. how dare you have such little empathy and awareness for others around you, may that one day change and may one day you understand the extent of damage that decades of payments cause.
I’ve never understood the logic behind exhorbitant student loan interest rates! Student loans should be entirely interest free. Duh! If you’re going to subsidize anything, then subsidize the interest rates on those loans. Then it is win/win/win: for the student, for the bank and for the nations intelligence base.
Student loans are far greater than 30%. If only those who can afford to pay for college up front attend, the world of educated pros shifts greatly and we all should consider what that would look like. Loans are never structured as a free ride and many borrowers were cheated by service providers. As with most things, digging deeper is worthwhile. Educated people has a price tag, not a free lunch.
As of 2025, the stat of college grads is closer to 56%.
I think its also VERY important to remember how many people go to college, and take on college debt, yet are not able to graduate (about 39% of people who start college. approx. 41.9 million people in 2022). Many of the people who need to leave college are first generation students, many have to leave to take on additional family responsibilities. Most of those people (and the people with the highest rate of college debt) are people of color. To have all that predatory debt, without a degree, is a tragedy.
I am not unsympathetic to this cohort (having spent decades paying my own loans back), but college grads are not even a majority in this country (please look at the stats, it is 30% of adults, although overrepresented on COJ). College grads will make a million dollars more than HS grads in their lifetime. This does not make us the most sympathetic cohort. Think of people who need this money more—medical debt, etc. I can see where people who didn’t go to college would not want to underwrite the 30% who did.
The world needs more people like Annie Andrews. X
The Liberty are amazing. Would be cool to have a feature one of their players (week of outfits!). :)
god I love it when anyone wholeheartedly recommends something as “deeply cool”. I’m a passionate student of deep coolness! I’m so interested in what makes a thing/person/action truly, timelessly cool. I agree that watch is! like a perfectly cut leather jacket or a deliciously worn in pair of jeans. it’s fascinating!!
I am Canadian, so this is rhetorical, but I would love to vote for Annie Andrews.
You can send her $10…or whichever amount.
Weird to see Altar’d State linked here? https://www.racked.com/2015/9/9/9280177/altard-state-christian-fashion-stores
Hmm, bought an old Timex Indiglo, with a Pearl face. Figured out how to put in a new battery. Bought a navy blue leather replacement band. All in $25. Thrift stores for interesting watches are great! I don’t need a status name, just a pleasing look, and basic function. Forget a smart watch distraction, or checking the time on my phone! I also put new batteries into several old watches.
Indiglo digital was THE watch to have when I was a teen mid-nineties. With those chunky tribal print Velcro bands.
Cup of Jo-ers, can you please share what substacks you enjoy? Either for quality writing or just for window shopping pretty things you will never buy… Thanks!
Drinks with Broads, from the ladies of Gofugyourself.com
This is a motley list, but: Meditations on an Emergency, Rebecca Solnit Austin Kleon yarnstorm, Jane Brocket Crone Sandwich, Catherine Newman Abbey goes Design Scouting, Abbey Nova The examined family, Courtney Martin RobinSloan.com
Ok, Dr. Annie Andrew’s, I’m joining you!!!! (Donated immediately!) This is the energy we need. Not politicians like Joni Ernst telling everyone “we all are going to die” when pressed about Medicaid cuts.
I love Dr. Andrews!
Love the northern Michigan article!! A friend and I are taking our boys up to Sleeping Bear dunes in a few weeks, and I cannot wait. It’s one of my favorite places in the world. Did you catch The NY Times article on Sleeping Bear dunes a few years ago https://www.nytimes.com/2019/09/04/travel/sahara-level-sand-dunes-mediterranean-blue-water-welcome-to-michigan.html?unlocked_article_code=1.LU8.RVP5.9kvRA-6aF3Zl&smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare
Thank you for this!! We have booked a summer 2026 9 night stay in Traverse City ( I’m an early planner wand wanted to snag and affordable but delightful house) so I’m soaking all these articles up.
Heather – If you haven’t already read Tom Lake, you should. It’s set in Northern Michigan, and gives you such a great feel for the region. Also, if you’re into camping, the Platte River National Park campground is amazing. It’s clean, quiet, spacious, AND you can walk a half mile through the trails to get to a private beach.
I read Tom Lake when it first came out then completely forgot about it somehow – maybe I’ll reread it again next year in preparation! And thanks for the beach tip! We’re staying in TC in a house for nine nights and I’d like to take day trips to Sleeping Bear Dunes, Leland, and Mackinac Island ( I can’t decide if this last one is too ambitious). Then of course generally hanging out in TC and going to farms!
Dr. Andrews brought tears to my eyes an hope to my heart!
FWIW Annie Andrew’s just as dynamic in person and an all around great woman. (I have many friends in common with her.)
The kottke/psychologist test is extremely interesting. I might have voted for the 95% grade if everyone else did. I’m a people pleaser. But honestly, I’d fall in the “I don’t want a grade I didn’t earn” camp. Being honest to a fault paired with good old Catholic guilt can really mess with a person’s head. I used to tell on myself if I did something I know my parents wouldn’t approve. My little sister thought I was an idiot for that. Ha!
The original Four Seasons is BRILLIANT! Perfectly orchestrated (no pun intended – Vivaldi :). I would highly recommend watching it. Funny how it took great lengths to find it recently and now it’s been re-released.
Re: the psychological test, I feel like we need way more context. For example, if I worked super hard at a class while other students skipped and didn’t take the subject or professor seriously, I’d absolutely want them to learn from that behavior and not get 95% on the test. It also seems like a stretch to compare this to people’s attitudes about student-loan forgiveness, which are *complicated*.
Completely agree. Two very different subjects that need revisiting for better appreciation.
Agree. Not just a stretch but a poor interpretation or poor analysis.
I thinkthe point was the reason they said no- none of them said no for the reason you thought you’d say no, they voted no for the reason of not sharing a good grade
Fully agree. I think these dissenters are just the ones who have always done 90% of the work on group projects and yet gotten the same grade as the other people in the group who contributed little. It’s not that they don’t want others to succeed. It’s just that they want others to get whatever grade they earn (however strong or poor that grade may be). They want their own effort (and education itself) to have value. That’s also why the example has no relationship to student loans, because those are much more about your family having wealth or not.
I agree. I appreciate the “moral” in other contexts but this is a terrible example of it. At least in theory, grades exist for a reason, to measure mastery of the material. It’s not just a boon for students, it’s information for employers, grad schools and the next professor who’s trying to educate that student. Wanting something that holds itself out to be a fact-based measurement to be tethered to reality is neither greedy nor evil as this piece tries to suggest.
My mom told me to watch the OG movie before the show, and I loved it SO much! High recommend. I really needed those comments about people being kind and thoughtful.
Not me tearing up at the nice things people have done….what a (much needed) bright spot.❤️
Annie Andrews, you go girl! That video made my day! I love a smart woman who’s not afraid to speak her mind and call out sh*t when she sees it.
I have wondered if you all would get into the WNBA with Toby being a big basketball fan! Isn’t their mascot Ellie so awesome too??
And Jo, that psychological test has slain me… my gut is just so low. Isn’t it true, this small percentage have greed so great it disrupts the capacity for joy amongst the masses. I wish librarians ruled the world.
Do watch the original Four Seasons! It is soooo good!
Hi CoJ: I wondered if you’d consider a post on career transition/reboots for the 40 plus set. I’m a mom to young kids who once had a successful career and has hit a real patch of bad road. I really need to get back on my feet and in the workforce but I’m lost and overwhelmed. Maybe I’m not the only one.
Sorry to hear this. I am actually in the process of developing a workshop for AARP about exactly this. During my research for the project, I found an influencer with excellent job-related content you might find helpful. She has loads on free content on YouTube: https://madelinemann.com/job-interview-secrets/
My parents really love my dog. My dog goes to a specialist ve because he has really bad allergies, but that vet a couple hours drive so sometimes with work, I needed my parents to take my dog. Turns out the vet loved my parents, and when I turned up she’d say “Oh, how are your parents?” in a way that was clear she’d been hoping to see them. Last time I went I told her my mum had been diagnosed with late stage melonoma metastasised… she said all the amazing things a loving vet can – talked about the new treatments and offered to explain anything along the way… anyway by the time we had finished the check up her assistant walked in with a massive box of cakes and pastries, for my mum. The vet said, ‘I know cancer loves sugar, but in these early days you get a wild card. Let her eat all the cakes with all our love’. Far out I loved her….. when my mum did get a reprieve theft was the first person I told.
That is so so sweet. Thank you for sharing.
I want to express my gratitude to those of you who helped my friend Sahar who is suffering in Gaza. She’s so thankful that this community was willing to help her and wanted to express her appreciation to you all. Watching the donations come in filled me with so much hope. I’ll be sending an update through Chuffed when the funds arrive. Joanna, by allowing visibility to the campaign you have made a difference in a woman’s life that is difficult to calculate. Never did I imagine that I could find so much support for her. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.
Here’s a campaign update and a video thanking Joanna. Message me @midasblush on instagram for more info! https://chuffed.org/project/127248-survival-funds-for-sahar-and-her-family-in-gaza
oh my gosh, I am in tears! thank you so much, Hannah.
I loved The Four Seasons with Alan Alda, it’s always been one of my favorite movies. I’m halfway through the series and although I love Tina Fey it’s just not standing up to the original. And Annie Andrew? Yes!
I hire in my professional life. I was ready to not like the 40 interview questions article, because I’ve read so many bad lists. However, that is a really interesting list! I love that they didn’t just give the question, but the reason *for* the question. While not all the questions apply well to the positions I’m hiring for, there are several that I can see myself adding to my standard list. Bookmarked! That said, I never want to participate in a job interview – on either side! – that ends with a round-robin of constructive feedback! ::cringe::
Daaaaang Dr. Annie Andrews!!! Get after it! Yes!!!!
Sadly, I Want No One Else to Succeed does not blow my mind. The minute Parade magazine reported the salaries of working people, from all walks of life, a serious tipping point was born and true defined collab levels shifted never to return. Whether family, friends, colleagues or foe-success’ very definition changed. Greed is good, bad behavior rewarded, everyone lies and fake it to make it breathe the very air once occupied by something far more important. I would refer to the new valued arch: POWER. Fossil’s watch dept. Outlet https://www.fossil.com/en-us/outlet/womens-outlet/watches/ Garden party/seed swap this weekend. Learning more about growing asparagus in my testy yard. Digging into Food Person. Checking out, Duster on HBO_Max. Love a 70’s soundtrack and wardrobe show.
Everyone watching the original Four Seasons, I think you’d also love Same Time Next Year with Alan Alda and Ellen Burstyn!
Love the readers’ comments so much. Thank you for highlighting them!
Can Dr Annie Andrews please move to Victoria, Australia and next year run against our incompetent Premier. She’ll be closer to Bluey. She is what every country needs. Wishing her all the best.
Annie Andrews, my heart!
YES!
She has my vote!!!!
The older I get, the more convinced I am that smart women are the answer to all the world’s problems.
Boxy tees, like the great summer tee linked above, are unbelievably unflattering on me. I’m tall and they leave me looking like I’m wearing something that shrunk in the dryer. Would love some recs for tees with that lovely slightly baggy feel that aren’t boxy or cropped. Do they exist?
Amen!
Following!! I want to love boxy tees but they are just so…boxy. I have an ancient (like fifteen year old) black H&M t-shirt that is perfect – 100% cotton, not thin enough to be see through and not thick enough to be too hot, the sleeves aren’t snug, the whole shirt is somehow loose without being baggy, and still shows my shape – drapes nicely over my boobs, tucks in slightly at the waist, and ends right above my bum. Where do I find this shirt now, does it exist?!
I’m short and would love recs for non cropped t-shirts. I don’t need all my bits showing.
I am tall (5’10”) and really like the linen tee from JCrew, maybe still slightly boxy but works great for me, even after sizing down: https://www.jcrew.com/m/womens/categories/clothing/tees-and-tanks/ME247?display=all&fit=Classic&colorProductCode=CI871&colorCode=WT0002&color_name=red-sand
I have no idea whether these will suit your needs, but I am a huge fan of the timeless T-shirts from Banana Republic factory. I have the crewneck and the V-neck versions and I wear them all the time! Soft, not too thin and not too thick. You can size up for a little more easy-going look and they look great under a blazer if you need to dress it up a bit.
I’ve thrifted cotton “men’s” tshirts from H&M and love the fit! Slightly oversized, but not boxy, and 100% cotton.
Me tooooo. Boxy tees are not it on tall or long torso’d people!
I have found some from Jungmaven that I really like including the Silverlake tee and the Lorel tee. I wait for a sale. :)
Hello Fellow tall person, I have had luck with lands end tall tees for my tall and thicker body. Good luck! I’m always looking for tall exercise pants (hate leggings), if anyone has found anything they like? https://www.landsend.com/products/womens-relaxed-supima-cotton-crew-neck-t-shirt/id_234877?attributes=7543,43381,44967
+1 for this!
This is my new favorite tee: substantial, super soft and drapes well without being clingy, longer than most. https://www.costco.com/banana-republic-mens-luxe-touch-tee.product.4000311271.html
Check out the Old Navy vintage T. It’s slouchy but I would not call it boxy. Plus they have tall sizes if you need them!
https://www.uniqlo.com/us/en/products/E424873-000/00?colorDisplayCode=09&sizeDisplayCode=003 I’ve had good luck with Uniqlo. May need to size down.
On behalf of tall, long waisted women everywhere, good God can we bring this boxy, crop top trend to an end!
These boxy tees don’t work for me either! Like you, I think they look great on other people. Would love recs for t-shirts that have more of an open/scoop neck. Has anyone tried Jungmaven? I get their IG ads but wonder if they’re worth the price.
Try out the men’s section if you haven’t yet — I’m wearing a cotton men’s tee right now and love the slightly looser feel/longer sleeves, longer length, and much more substantial quality material compared to women’s tees I’ve had. And usually they come with a smaller price tag too, no pink tax!
I’d check out the men’s department for T-shirt. They’re usually boxy and a bit longer for tall people. If they’re too long on me but I like the fit on top I just chop off the bottom with scissors.
Buck Mason’s women’s tees are perfect IMO. Lightweight, soft, and comfortable. Long enough to tuck in, if that’s your thing, not slim fit but not boxy. Obsessed with the cloud material. I have a few and wear them constantly. The quality has held up and they dress up and down perfectly. I sized up to make sure they had a more relaxed feel.
Old navy snug crop t shirt Old Navy every wear crew neck t shirt Xx-I’m 5’10!
I’m short and I love a boxy tee, but don’t like my belly hanging out. I would love one that hits at the hips. Hope someone has some recs!
Boxy tees are simply awful for many of us. I can’t wait for them to go out of style(unless they look good on you!). Lands end, ll bean and Chicos do have all cotton tees that are not boxy.
I’d love that recommendation too! I’m over 6’ tall and things look the best of me when they hit below the hit. Almost drop waist level. I had luck with Soft Surroundings, you just have to comb thru for the younger looking looking items.
Everlane’s tissue tees are nice and long.
Boxy, short tees make me look like a cereal box with appendages. I’m a big fan of the GapFit Breathe tshirts. They last a really long time. The fabric is lightweight, soft and stretchy. And it comes in Tall sizes! https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=630811022&cid=1117374&pcid=1117374&vid=1&nav=meganav%3AWomen%3ACategories%3AGapFit+Activewear There’s a crew neck too but for whatever reason it looks like it has a seam down the back: https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=738908052&rrec=true&mlink=5050%2C12413545%2CPDP_gapproduct2_rr_2&clink=12413545&vid=1
Yes, please. I used to love Everlane t-shirts recommended here. Ordered some new ones, they’ve been replaced by short boxy cut ones that make me look like Winnie the Pooh. Who still makes flattering t-shirts for 40 somethings.
And us shorter folks with oddly long torsos… I can’t be the only one, right?
I don’t know if they’re available worldwide, but there is a cult following in Australia for the classic heritage tee by an iconic brand called Country Road. Their fit is wonderful and not cropped at all. They’re always available but colours vary from season to season. They also wash and wear well for many years. This middle-aged mum loves hers to bits ….. I’m going on 5 years with my powder blue one and it still looks mint. https://www.countryroad.com/verified-australian-cotton-heritage-embroidered-t-shirt-60257624-9903
Same, I just got a Uniqlo tee and love it for being baggy but not boxy or cropped. Striped just like above but cuter: https://www.uniqlo.com/us/en/products/E478980-000/00?colorDisplayCode=65&sizeDisplayCode=004&utm_campaign=%7Bcampaign%7D&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_content=%7Basset_id%7D&campaignid=22084064869&asset_group_id=%7Basset_group_id%7D&location=%7Blocation%7D&device=m&network=x&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22074184227&gclid=Cj0KCQjw9O_BBhCUARIsAHQMjS6eJqjYl3T_iAbUx-NGW7vQM7OQ16JPdfADAVXKWSB5AkuroNPmr58aAhgrEALw_wcB
In general I like tshirts from Boden. I have found them to be not only longer, but with better fit, more shaped and tailored to curves. Also I like designs that tend to be less “basic” and more interesting. Prices can be steep but there are frequent sales.
I’m short and don’t love the cropped, boxy look on me much either. I think I have found a great option that isn’t a clingy tee, nor is it too loose or boxy, and it is the PACT line. I now have 3 of them and reach for them on rotation. A nice weight too. Not too heavy, not too light so they drape/hang nicely.
I have enjoyed buying a couple of men’s tees for that experience. Often soft, early cropped, rarely too fitted. Lately, just some Target brand men’s black tees in M that give a bit more space and have a higher V, which I prefer most days anyway.
As a fellow tall person, I look for t shirts with a boatneck and cap sleeves, and not super baggy. (Definitely not both wide and cropped, which does produce the “shrunk in the wash” effect you mentioned.)
I like the “Old Navy Oversized Everywhere Tunic.” I have several solid colors and they gets lots of wear on hot days!
americantall.com or longtallsally.com
What about something like this? https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=740140012&cid=17076&pcid=17076&vid=1&nav=hamnav%3AWomen%3ACategories%3AT-Shirts%20%26%20Tanks#pdp-page-content
I LOVE Old Navy’s tees. They come in tall lengths (finally someone makes a long torso tee!). I have the same issue with the current trend of boxy or cropped tee.
As someone with a larger chest, I am ALSO always on the lookout for this white whale garment! I’ve had success in the past with things that call themselves “boyfriend” shirts — a little longer in the torso, still boxy.
Primary! I believe the unisex shirts are rather long, based on the one stripped shirt I have and I love the fabric.
Emily called it! The kids brand Primary has adult tees. They fit perfectly (for me), are the right thickness, and are nice and soft. And are 100% cotton. And they’re having a sale right now (30% off!)
Watched the original Four Seasons movie, omg so good. The opening scene with the bread…too funny!!!
Right?!? I love that movie and I rewatch it every couple of years. The clothes are my dream wardrobe (and are similar to the current Alex Mill offerings). Alan Alda and Carol Burnett are such a believable and hilarious couple. I really enjoyed the remake but the original has my heart.
I had never seen the original and watched it after I finished the series. I loved the movie and it made me laugh several times!
Omg you must watch the original Alan Alda Four Seasons!!! It’s so much better than the new one. Such a classic. You will love it.
I watched it after watching the show and I agree, it was so much better. It reminded me that older movies and shows often feel more specific and nuanced and a lot of content today feels kind of safe and algorithmically developed.
@Emily Johnson you described the problem perfectly! Shows do feel “algorithmically developed,” lacking cultural specificity. I think the last show I watched that felt nuanced and interesting was “Never Have I Ever”
Oh the reader’s comments! My heart! Have a great weekend everyone!
Those cherry earrings are rad! That website reminds me of Lauren O’s comment about the bots mistaking her for a mermaid millionairess and filling her feed with crab bells and the like. https://minniemae.co.uk/shop/p/prawnandleonplate
Hah! Yes I remember this bc it made me lol! Those ridic expensive crabs.
Lauren O!
Ok, anyone else just drop everything and donate to Annie Andrews?
Oh I so will donate to her campaign. 💪
ME!!! I DID!!!!
YES!! OMG, YES!
I hope she kicks ass! What a great video.
OMG can she run for president?!?
Don’t you just wish we could ALL vote for Annie Andrews?!?!
YEP. I live across the country but just donated. It took a minute to find her site because her link is not on the video but here it is: https://drannieandrews.com/
I can’t donate as I’m not a citizen/ green card holder, but I’ve spent a glorious hour trawling her Instagram…. Loved what I found.
Thank you for influencing me to do just that!
Yes! She gives me hope
I’m back with the link to her campaign, for anyone else who wants to donate. https://drannieandrews.com/
YES! I just sent her some money. Lindsay Graham needs to go.
Wow! One of the best political ads I’ve ever seen. More candidates and campaigns like this please!
Loved this video! $50 out here in CA :)
I absolutely just did!
YYYYESSSSS!!! Doing so right now!
Freestyle Shark watches, always.
You must live in a beachy place like me!
Yes! That’s what I wear! I love the whimsy and pop o’ color.
I’m happy to see another Shark fan. Their colors are the best and they’re great watches. I have one in baby blue and one in a fun 80s pastel colorway.
Yes!!! I have two!
Me tooo! Freestyle Mini Clips are my go to!