It’s Sexy Book Season

When it comes to books, I usually veer towards a party mix of thrillers, depressing sagas, weird little novels, and short stories. But I like to read in high contrast, so after a long intense story, I wanted something light and flirty. A friend recommended a popular romance series, and I dove right in.
I started with the massively bestselling A Court of Thorns and Roses — aka the sexy fairy books. The first one kept me turning 200 pages in anticipation of the big cross-species hookup, but I was ready to call it a day when it was over. Then a friend said YOU HAVE TO KEEP GOING, so I did, and the second book was 500 percent hotter. I was reading it on the beach last summer when I saw a woman floating in an inner tube reading the same bright teal book, her kids screaming at each other in the sand. She didn’t seem to notice.
After a few chaste novels and The Shining for Halloween (hell yeah), I peppered in another romance, then another. A good romance novel can make you feel teenage butterflies in your stomach, a lusty crush, an attraction to the idea of a motorcycle, and the first few floaty months of falling in love — even if it’s all in your head.
I loved Emily Henry’s sharply told Funny Story, which took place in a Michigan lake town not unlike the one I was reading it in, Traverse City. I devoured Rochelle Bilow’s food-loving book, Ruby Spencer’s Whisky Year. I adored Casey McQuiston’s Red, White & Royal Blue, which transported me to a land of rich people in the way Crazy Rich Asians had — and it was funny, too. My book club read the timeline-hopping The Seven-Year Slip, which was a cute weekend fling with a gentle nod to Auntie Mame.
I couldn’t help but wonder a few things. Am I reading these books to satisfy some unsatisfied part of my life? Or is reading romance just helping sustain the long game that is female libido? Many of us need build-up. We need imagination. I was glad these books got me thinking about it all. On Reddit’s r/RomanceBooks I saw a reader ask another if the book being discussed was “HEA” (“happily ever after”). The reader wanted to ensure she was in for a good time, no strings attached.
My question to my book club was, “What is the most romantic book you’ve ever read?” That means a love story that haunts you decades after reading. Mine was Waiting by Ha Jin, tied with Annie Proulx’s Brokeback Mountain. Not HEA, but I learned more about the nature of love, and felt the deepest pangs, from those novels than any other. Why not read them all?
Alex Beggs is a writer and copywriter who lives with her partner in Michigan. Her articles have appeared in Bon Appetit, Elle Decor, and The New York Times. She has also written for Cup of Jo about her dad’s meatloaf, cold cake, and (very) bad hair days.
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167 commentsJust finished The Seven Year Slip because of this post and I just want to say thank you. I’ve been reading alot of critically acclaimed, and serious and non-fiction the past year and needed a break. Life is heavy my marriage has been feeling tired. Read this book and LOVED it. Finished last night and rolled over and saw my beautiful beautiful husband with fresh eyes and proceeded to have the best makeout (and eh hem more) session in ages. Romance books are lovely like that.
This is my jam! I have to admit that since this post came out I have already read two of the books recommended! I know someone already mentioned Mhairi McFarlane, but she’s an author I keep coming back to and pre-order the books. Along the same lines, Beth O’Leary is also amazing (The Flatshare). I happen to love angsty books because I want to feel all the things! There is nothing better than reading a book that makes your heart ache (and let’s be real, maybe shed a few tears too) and then finally reach the relief and joy of the happy ever after. If you also love angst with a HEA at the end, specifically the book Dear Emmie Blue by Lia Louis is a great contemporary one. Angsty + historical: Ravishing the Heiress by Sherry Thomas (I also love her Lady Sherlock series, but it’s more mystery novels with a long low burn romance). Finally, if you’re into the trifecta of angsty, historical, Pride & Prejudice variations then Being Mrs. Darcy is for you!
Forgot to add that it’s the Being Mrs Darcy by Lucy Marin!
To be transported to a world of rich people but where there are hints at reality without the after-school-special vibe, I highly recommend Alyssa Cole’s romances which feature “reluctant royals” from various made-up tiny kingdoms in a contemporary and otherwise recognizable world. For the same feel, but with historical US settings and Black MCs, Beverly Jenkins is queen!
Had to come add my two cents with a few that haven’t been mentioned yet… If you like a sports romance: the Windy City series by Liz Tomforde If you like a cowboy romance: Wells Ranch series by Bailey Hannah and the Lucky River Ranch series by Jessica Peterson If you like a small town Gilmour Girls Stars Hollow sort of vibe: Lovelight Farms series by BK Borison If you want a protagonist that is a little older, divorced single mom: Summer Romance or Nora Goes Off Script by Annabel Monaghan If you’re looking for something cozy and charming with a touch of magical realism: The Seven Year Slip by Ashley Poston
I recommend anything and everything Kennedy Ryan, the woman can write a story. Her most popular ones have already been referenced, but I loved the Long Shot series, (read trigger warnings) and The Bennet Series!
Haven’t got through all the comments yet, but haven’t seen The Time Travelers Wife by Audrey Niffenegger. Maybe not sexy, but SOOOO romantic. I still remember just weeping on the couch, my husband thought I was nuts.
Same!!!
Hi, I’m an absolute romance addict. Most of my favourites have already been named, so I’ll add what I haven’t seen yet. Contemporary – Two wrongs make a right by Chloe Liese (I just finished it and absolutetly loved it!) – The wedding Date and The Proposal by Jasmine Guillory – The ‘I heart’ series by Lindsey Kelk – Boyfriend Material by Alexis Hall (a M/M romance) Historical -Has no one mentioned Elizabeth Hoyt yet? I love her and all her books. My favourite is ‘The Leopard Prince’. – I think no one mentioned Johanna Lindsey. – Loretta Chase – Lord of scoundrels – Eloisa James (I love almost all of her books, but here some favourites): A duke of her own, When beauty tamed the beast (how fun is it, that he’s a regency House MD? ;-)) – Tessa Dare – Goddess of the hunt – Teresa Medeiros – Yours until dawn – Anne Mallory – One night is never enough – Julie Anne Long – What I did for a duke
I love love LOVE the Vanished series by Stacey Lynn Hafner. The friendships are so fun, the women characters are bad-ass, and the romance is FIRE. Tattoo My Heart is the first of the series, and is *chef’s kiss.*
I have to give a shout out to “Early Morning Riser” by Katherine Heiny. It’s based in Petoskey, MI and features a second grade teacher falling in love with the town handyman. It is laugh out loud funny, bittersweet, and just lovely. I vacation every year in Petoskey and read this book during that week. It makes me laugh every time. Another great book is “The Jane Austen Society” by Natalie Jenner. It is just beautiful and a HEA story. Perfect for lovers of JA.
Loved EMR! Well written! Subtle! Grew on me!
A note for fellow Romance readers to listen to the podcast, “Fated Mates.” The hosts, Romance writer Sarah Maclean (her books are incredible) and Romance editor Jen Prokop, discuss the history of the genre in such an in depth way ,how it reflects the times, and women’s rights. Each week the book recommendations are incredible, they will not steer you wrong.
I gobbled up the Fourth Wing series, then realized that Rebecca Yarros has written a bazillion contemporary romance novels, and they’re all excellent. My funniest romance novel story is that besides revving up my sex life, I think they make me a better parent. I was trying to figure out how to tell my 13 year old that he needed to be honest with me in order for me to go to bat for him on things. I decided to channel a standard Rebecc Yarros contemporary romance lead man – they’re all very secure and strong. I talked to my son channeling one of those dudes, with my husband quietly staring at me from our kitchen island. Afterwards, he said, “I think that is the single most effective thing you’ve ever said as a parent.” He had absolutely no clue I was channeling a male romance novel character 😂😂😂.
Hilary, I must now know the details of this interaction that was the single most effective thing you’ve ever said as a parent”! Please share, if you’re willing
Hilary, I also need more details on this! What did you say?! And how did you channel Xaden? I must know!
Same!! What did you say??
Jilly Cooper’s Riders and Rivals was the backdrop of my boarding school life as a teenager.. Jilly is very important to me. Also , Jane Austen forever. Persuasion is my favourite. I recommend Audrey Belezza and Emily Hardings retellings of Pride and Predjudice and Emma. Emma of 83rd St is a super fun Emma/ Clueless mash up. I think their next is a Persuasion retelling so cannot wait.
UPDATE! Emily O, your rec of The Roommate was fire – steamy for sure. Snagged it at the library yesterday morning – by 11am there was a hold on it, which wasn’t there first thing in the morn, and I was dying to know if it was a fellow COJer. Fortunately our library lets you check out if they haven’t yet pulled the hold, so home with me it went. And now I’m already done and back here for more ideas.
If any of you fellow readers also like tracking your books and TBR piles online, and no longer want to support (Amazon-owned) Goodreads, I just switched to Storygraph this week and like it so far! I just love this post, and seeing so many beloved titles mentioned here (+1 for Romantic Comedy and Seven Days in June especially)! I’m thankful ACOTAR was recommended by a COJ reader comment in ~2019 — what fun worlds to dive in to. I love steamy romantasy (a mates trope is so appealing), fantasy, rom-com, trad romance. Then when I think about romantic stories in fiction, I actually think of two of favorite movies I need to re-watch: Amelie and Sense & Sensibility!
Oooh! Thank you so much for sharing about Storygraph. I’m trying to slowly break up with Amazon, and this is a great step in the right direction!
Thank you for the Storygraph suggestion. Also WOW they even import your Goodreads data! Amazing
You Made A Fool of Death With your Beauty by Emezi, Akwaeke. Great character development, well written AND hot. I don’t always have patience for mediocre writing. This novel hit all points for me!
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Loved loved loved this one!
I’ve always been a historical / regency romance reader, whether traditional (Georgette Heyer, Patricia Veryan) or the wonderful writers from the 90s (Julie Garwood, Judith McNaught) to the last decade or so (Lisa Kleypas, Loretta Chase – Lord Perfect is the book I hand out to get people to read regency romance. I describe it as sinking into a warm bath. So enjoyable all the way around). But someone at smartbitchestrashybooks.com somehow got me to take a hard left turn into contemporary M/M Hockey spicy romances and I have read Heated Rivalry and it’s sequel The Long Game, by Rachel Reid, more times than I care to admit. Whew! Love the evolution of the two protagonists from teenagers to a decade in the NHL, going from hot hook ups to devoted love, and all the fights (but not stupid misunderstandings) along the way. 10 out of 10 would recommend.
AHHHH, I love Heated Rivalry and The Long Game! Heated Rivalry got me through 2020, and it’s still my top tier romance novel – I have yet to find something that compares to it.
Oh man – the Heated Rivalry books are my ride or die favorite series, they’re all so good but Ilya is my ultimate swoon, and I love him.
Can’t wait to dive into these!! I recently read The Ministry of Time by Kaliane Bradley and while more of a sci-fi-ish book there is a really wonderful and sexy love story wrapped in it that I adored. Highly recommend!
I really enjoyed that book! So much so that about 40 pages in I bought a copy for my dad, thinking how much he would enjoy the historical juxtaposition… then I got to the sexy sexy bits and was reconsidering my gift!
If you enjoy historical fiction and live in Georgia, you might enjoy the St. Simons Island Trilogy by Eugenia Price. My daughter and I read them many years ago and later visited the family cemetery on the island. Emotional and heart warming.
“The Beloved Invader,” “New Moon Rising,” and “Lighthouse,” explore the lives of the Gould and Dodge families on St. Simons Island, Georgia. Christ Church & Cemetery… https://www.exploresouthernhistory.com/christchurch.html
Guys. No one mentioning Jane Eyre?? Love story to top them all. Also: North and South by Elizabeth Gaskell, if you’re looking for slow burn meeting-of-the-minds romance (aren’t we all). For spiciness, I always turn to fanfiction. Some of the best writers out there are doing it for fun and for free.
Yes North and South! The novel and also the bbc mini series. So romantic! Love them both.
There was love for Jane Eyre and North and South further down :) You may have to click to load more comments since a simple Find on page doesn’t always do the trick. I reread Jane Eyre every year, and I love Gaskell so much I moved to the UK and did a PhD on her. Have you read any of her others?
Agree. Charlotte Bronte can write angst and longing like no one else. And the way she shows you what’s happening and reveals her protagonist’s feeling slowly to the reader. Apart from Jane Eyre, Villette is wonderful (but sad). I keep waiting for BBC to make a miniseries of it… (Please, if anyone on here works for BBC!). North and South, yes! Pride and Prejudice, absolutely. And Persuasion. The “Recipes for Love and Murder” series…
I have not read any other Gaskell! I’ll have to check it out. And Villette—god, I was so frustrated by that book. Although when he whispers in her ear “just pretend you’re acting to the rats” I about died. iykyk 😂
Do yourself a favor and read Nalini Singh. I especially adore the Psy-Changeling series. I think they are officially called paranormal romances. The worldbuilding is absolutely fantastic and there are a lot of books in the series! Plus they are really, really hot. The first one is called “Slave to Sensation”. I know… but please give it a try! She also wrote some contemporary romances that are nice.
Yes! I have read all her books.. hot hot hot with intellect to boot :) I love a good combo of mystery, thriller and Romance
I just finished reading Attachments by Rainbow Rowell and Funny You Should Ask by Elissa Sussman and I loved both. Not super spicy, but very romantic. And, anything by Emily Henry. I can’t wait for her next book to come out.
Attachments by Rainbow Rowell is one of my very favorites! Love almost all of her books.
Yes yes the romance book topic will always be a top 5 Cup of Jo post for me!!!
I have to shout out Tia Williams, Yulin Kuang and Nora Nguyen as gorgeous writers of some of the best romance with great character development, gorgeous writing, very fun and complex protagonists and delightful stories. I’ve been looking and looking for something that comes close and only Hardly Strangers from 831 Stories has fit the bill.
I’m just getting into romance and there’s the tiniest, funniest, feistiest romance bookstore one town over from me. In the heart of super-Mormon Utah Valley, no less! It’s called Lagg (stands for “like a good girl”) and it’s packed full of anything you could want, classic and contemporary and everything in between, LGBTQIA+, YA, spicy, sweet—and including girly romance-y goodies. (I bought a gorgeous copy of Jane Austen’s Persuasion, a queer romance called The Honey Witch by Sydney J. Shields, two hair bows, and a bookmark with boobs all over it.) If you spend over $69, they snap a Polaroid of you to go up on the Good Girl Wall. It’s a riot! It makes me want to patronize their shop again and again!
As a fellow Utahn, I love that store!! And it was started by two teachers too. Even better! Glad to see my hometown represented in the COJ comments haha
Some of my favorites: *The True Love Experiment by Christina Lauren (this is technically the 2nd book in the series, so you could read The Soulmate Equation first) *Love and Other Words – Christina Lauren *Practice Makes Perfect – Sarah Adams *Fourth Wing – Rebecca Yarros *This Summer Will Be Different – Carley Fortune *All of Emily Henry’s books *The Kiss Quotient by Helen Hoang *The Hating Game by Sally Thorne (don’t watch the movie – they did not capture the book’s magic!) *The Spanish Love Deception by Elena Armas *The Love Hypothesis, Love on the Brain, and Love, Theoretically by Ali Hazelwood
You are my book twin! Tons of my faves here. I listened to The Hating Game twice! You should read The Unhoneymooners—my fave of Christina Lauren’s.
I love CoJ posts in general, but especially ones that require me to open 11 new tabs with book title searches and max out my library holds. You are all magic beans.
lol same
For a literary swoon, I love Possession by A.S. Byatt. I wish I could read this for the first time again.
Yes!! I’m planning to reread this soon. Swoon-worthy!
Loved Possession! This was the first book that came to mind when Alex asked the question about most romantic book! I haven’t read it for 20 years but that feeling of intense romance has stuck with me.
Me too! All her books are anazing but that one is unforgettable
Oooh I LOVE Possession. And it holds up to rereading; I find it’s a great antidote when you’ve just read some disappointing, not-very-good books. So nice to have a reminder of what good novels can be!
Like many others, I’m a devoted reader of classics and contemporary literary fiction, but after devouring In Memoriam by Alice Winn and The Sparsholt Affair by Alan Hollinghurst (two novels that cracked open unexpected emotions) I took a deep dive into queer romance and it’s been a sweet and hilarious ride. So I would love to recommend the lovely Cat Sebastian and her mid-century NY romances: We Could Be So Good and You Should Be So Lucky. These books are brimming with longing, charm, and delicious slow-burn pining that makes my heart flutter in the best way. The setting makes everything moodier and better.
I read In Memoriam after seeing it recommended in the comments here last year! It was such a beautiful story. I’ve never seen it discussed anywhere else, and I’ve been searching in vain for something similar. Thanks for the recommendation!
LOVE these two books by Cat Sebastian. We could be so Good is one of my top 5 books ever. So tender and beautiful.
I’ve read The Line of Beauty by Alan Hollinghurst a few years ago and can’t stop thinking about, but it’s not romantic at all, so I’m curious on what The Sparsholt Affair is like. Need to pick up In Memoriam again, I’ve only heard good things but I started it when I was in a bad mood I think because I dnf’d when I was about 30 pages in.
If you like lightly humorous, wacky, magical reality than “Out of This World” by Jill Shalvis will be a very light, fun read. She has a particular voice – it could be annoying but it was fine for me as a change of pace and I enjoyed this particular story, though many people did not, so, proceed at your own risk. The bottom line is, it is just silliness, and that’s the point. I have reread it several times when I needed a reliable, mental break. I’ve enjoyed several of her books, so far, all more conventional romance but with a similar voice and needless to say, very easy reads.
I don’t think anyone has mentioned Helen Hoang yet! The Kiss Quotient is SO GOOD! It’s the perfect combo of smart and sexy. Her other two books are great too. They all feature neurodivergent and diverse characters. I highly recommend Helen Hoang!!
Agree 10000%!!!! If you love Helen Hoang, definitely read Talia Hibbert. “Act Your Age Eve Brown” was my first of hers and I DEVOURED it. Neurodivergent/disabled romance that is verrrrrry spicy and very tender. Highly recommend.
I’m not gay but my favorite recently was the audio version of Big Swiss. Is good for fans of On All Fours. I can’t get big swiss’s voice out of my head, a month later, lol! Will probably re-listen.
ME TOO! It was such a fun audiobook! I also came to it after All Fours and yes yes, yes!! It was a good pairing.
I must be the only one who doesn’t love or even like the Court of Thorns books. They seem sexist and weird, with the focus on violence (assasins? I’ll never understand the appeal and romantification of assasins, like in The Gorge and all the Tom Cruise type movies. I love the adventure and self-mastery but the vehicle: assasin – makes no sense and seems wildly toxic and weird), and the abuse the main character suffers from her ‘master’ or whatever. ick? Very 1890’s. Can we have an sexually empowered female that does not have a ‘master’ and does not tolerate straight up abuse from him? Baffled and frankly embarrassed about why these are so loved. I know I sound so unhip but whatever! Enlighten me, please! I was reading my first and only book on the ferry and had someone ask me how I was liking them as she’d been reading them too and when I told her they read as totally sexist and misogynist to me she didn’t get it and the conversation sadly died. lol
I’m with you here. Not a fan but I wanted to be!
I started and could not finish. Its a big ick for me to see someone HUNDREDS of years older (with a teenager no less!) and his sexiness was supposed to come from the fact that he has barely controlled rage and anger?! that doesn’t do it for me. And his constant reminder to her that she owed him all while he was holding her captive. Just too many red flag things for me to ignore in order to enjoy the book.
They’re also just…terribly written.
You are not alone. I had a lot of issues with the first book (I quit at about 70%), and those were some of them.
I agree with you — the first one absolutely is toxic and gross. I couldn’t read it several times. But then a friend told me it’s all set up for what happens in the next ones (that guy is hardly In them, except as part of her journey to realize that was shit and she wants different). Is it perfect and without any real gender binary trash? Absolutely not. But a lot of the rest of it is building a life after a toxic situation, and that’s what many folks really respond to I think
I think that’s the Throne of Glass books you’re referring to!
These books are not for everyone but I do feel obligated to clarify that the first book is really just setting the table for the series, and is not the main course. If you gave up and didn’t continue until book two (and I get it!!!) it’s like quitting game of thrones season 1 because you didn’t like Sean bean!
oh, but if you can make it to the last one…that one was sooooo good. And centered on a pretty strong female character. Also I felt like the writing improved as well. But to each their own. ♥
Yes, Throne of Glass, sorry! @Sara, re: “But a lot of the rest of it is building a life after a toxic situation, and that’s what many folks really respond to I think”… OK, this makes sense. It’s just a giant leap of trust the author is asking, for readers to chew through that first book in order to get to the character’s transformation in future books. I guess I am not the target audience, but if your (excellent) take on it is her mission in these books, then %100 YAY – what a great job she is doing, reaching so many.
Not alone. I read the first book and hated it. Have continued to be baffled by the popularity!
If you’re looking for a good queer romance recommendation, I think one of the most romantic books I’ve ever read is “A Lady for a Duke” by Alexis Hall. A trans woman in 1800s England reconnects with her male best friend, who thinks she died in the battle of Waterloo. It was a breathtaking read.
Oooh I loved this one too! I also really liked A Shore Thing, another queer historical romance, this time with a trans man. A lot lighter in tone, but still very interesting and romantic :)
Wuthering Heights. A classic love and a tortured, Byronic hero. Loved it. Who could forget the immortal lines! And who else could write so but a woman!
I love romance and love a historical (I love something that takes me out of the present/suspends my judginess of the characters a little more, haha). I like Julie Anne Long, specifically “It Started With a Scandal.” Courtney Milan is good, too but there are tons of others on a similar wavelength if you go down this rabbit hole!
Nothing makes me hotter than a Sally Rooney sex scene!
I somehow always forget how smutty she is! V much enjoying Intermezzo right now.
I totally agree. Normal People was devastatingly hurtful and SEXY at the same time.
Just finished Intermezzo and WOW, the way she writes about the pushes and pulls of a relationship between such layered characters just has me mesmerized. Also love her blunt style of writing sex scenes.
So, to me there is romance: slow burn, an ever present glow on the charcoal, quiet, yearning,butterfly inducing and then there’s romance that’s hot, sensual, an stimulating. For the former, I like books like The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society, Water for Elephants, Like Water for Chocolate, etc. For the latter, the first few Outlander books in the series had me. Aside from finding out how much I enjoyed historical fiction, I was surprised how turned on I got reading the spicier parts. My husband was the lucky recipient to all that built up energy… haha!!
If you’d like the most romantic – The Idea of You by Robinne Lee for something more sophisticated-romantic, and Casey McQuiston’s The Pairing for more angsty/yearning romantic. I read both of those for the first time more than a year ago and I still think about both probably weekly!
Yes to the idea of you – a hundred times yes! (But, dear reader, not the film adaption)
Omg the Idea of You – I could re-read that book till the end of time
One of the best romance books I’ve read is The Intimacy Experiment by Rosie Danan about a hot rabbi and a former porn star/sex educator- I read it years before Nobody Wants This (which has a similar kinda setup and I even though I enjoy this show, I still think this book plot would have made for perhaps an even more compelling show). I recommended it to a friend and after she finished it she introduced me to all her other friends at her birthday party as “the girl who recommended a hot rabbi romance” hahaha… could be worse, memorable intros to have! But I loved it because as a Jewish person, our culture isn’t always given the best treatment in literature, as we are often missing from romance books (but this is slowly changing over the last few years). And Rosie did a fabulous job of depicting a loving, sexy Jewish relationship!
The Roommate by Rosie Danan is also very sexy and fun. Not all her books hit the same note, but she is a great sex writer.
YES! Love Rosie Danan’s writing and the way she centers Jewish identity without making it a *Jewish* book.
If you are interested in Jewish romance novel rec, and don’t mind mlm, KD Casey writes baseball romance books which usually have Jewish main characters (Casey herself is also Jewish). I’m not Jewish myself, but I found her author notes at the end really interesting and she does a great job at writing Jewish characters without it feeling like it’s Judaism 101 for Goys. I’ll be adding The Intimacy Experiment to my tbr, it sounds great!
Me Before You by Jojo Moyes gutted me! What an amazing love story which led to absolute sobbing while my toddler napped on a trip to Aruba!
Me too! Absolutely wrecked me but it was so so beautiful. I think of that book often!
Loved it!
Definitely not a “happy ever after” kind of book, but I literally just finished Atonement this morning and it’s a masterpiece. I still haven’t seen the movie, so even though there were parts of the story I was familiar with just through the cultural zeitgeist, it was nice to be able to read the book fresh without much influence.
One of my favourite as well. The movie is really good, great James McAvoy
I read, or listen to books absolutely every single day. Mostly fiction. I worked at a library for 25+ years in the circulation department. I’ve certainly seen every type of book, and reader in all the combinations. No judgement! As for romance, I loved this essay by Katherine Center: http://booksbywomen.org/love-stories-can-save-the-world-katherine-center/ My wish with picking a new read is finding books with characters that have some life experience. I’m in my sixties, and romance between all the very young folks is less than inspiring, and all too common. An all time favorite series are the Outlander books, by Diana Gabaldon. The parts of the books that are about day to day life, and long relationships very much like real life. Glowing coals that burst into flames at times. If we’re lucky, life is long, and plenty of it isn’t exciting. Nice to read a series where passion is still there. Another favorite author is Linda Holmes. “She co-hosts the NPR podcast Pop Culture Happy Hour. She has been a guest host on Bullseye, too – maybe you heard her conversations with the Indigo Girls, Elisabeth Moss, or Giancarlo Esposito on this very program. In 2019, Linda wrote a novel: Evvie Drake Starts Over – a terrific mix of rom-com and baseball.” She’s just released her third novel.
Thanks for the heads up about a new Linda Holmes novel! I really enjoyed Evvie Drake Starts Over. Placing a hold on the new one now!
Loved that essay! Btw Katherine Center is one of my fave authors! She’s an instant read for me now – I’ll read anything she writes!
I’ve enjoyed many romance books but the romance that haunts me decades later is in a movie. A man who is a soldier volunteers for a dangerous mission to travel back in time to protect the woman he loves, a woman he has never met because she lived in the past. He has heard of her reputation for being a badass and had a picture of her that was given to him once. And when he meets her, she is terrified by the danger she is facing and hasn’t become a badass yet and she asks him if he is disappointed at meeting her and he says NO. And the most haunting part is his description of the expression on her face in the picture of her that he had been given. It haunts me because how can it get more romantic than traveling back through time for the woman you’re in love with but have never met and you’re going there as a soldier on a mission to protect her from great danger and do not intend to tell her how you feel. The movie is The Terminator.
Bravo – best comment ever!
yes! hardest cry in a movie is easily the end of T2. what a perfect comment!
Yes!! Terminator is unironically one of the most romantic movies of all time.
I loved Freya Marske’s books from the Last Binding series. Queer, historical fantasy. Read them in order.
Re: the legitimacy & genesis of the romance genre I highly recommend two special seasons of the fantastic podcast “Hot & Bothered” by Vanessa Zoltan + Lauren Sandler – they invite wonderful scholars and do an in-depth chapter-by-chapter reading and analysis of 2 of the greatest novels of all time: “On Eyre” – about Charlotte Brontë’s “Jane Eyre”: https://www.hotandbotheredrompod.com/on-eyre “Live From Pemberley” – about Austen’s “Pride and Prejudice” https://www.hotandbotheredrompod.com/live-from-pemberley It’s insightful, inspiring and their love for and knowledge about romance fiction is truly infectious. Plus they often link aspects of depicted women’s lives to current topics and debates. It really is the best!
This is the first time I’ve ever seen Waiting by Ha Jin on a list like this! I read it probably 8 years ago and still think about it. Excellent book.
As a woman in STEM who loves the trope of “man hopelessly in love and woman is oblivious”, Ali Hazelwood hits every one of my buttons. She’s an automatic pre-order for me!
I also came here to say Ali Hazelwood. Love on the Brain was butterfly-inducing, and also hilarious.
Agree agree agree!!!I also came here to recommend Ali Hazelwood. Devoured her books!
Agreed! What I would give to read Ali Hazelwood books again for the first time!
I did not read all the comments yet… but I one day I spiraled into a Booktok universe and did not come out the same. The things I read since then make ACOTAR seem like child’s nursery rhyme. I also am beyond the YA teenage angst, like the Fourth Wing, with a young woman who cannot comprehend how to move on past a silly problem (looking at the second book but not wanting to kill the plot for anyone). Basically, if like me, you are older, perimenopausal, and aren’t rattled by unhinged dark romance (read trigger warnings first), do read Hunting Adeline by H.D. Carlton, and Credence by Penelope Douglas. Then, your phone will most likely know you read this and will point your algorithm on TikTok or Insta to Booktok girlies giving you further unhinged recs. Listen to them and read them. I have not been the same. In a good way. And I am still in a book club where we read all the lofty/literally things. The smut is my guilty pleasure. We can be both :)
Just wait until you try to explain Morning Glory Milking Farm to someone……and that despite the premise, it’s actually so sweet and cozy…..
I recommend Cathy Yardley and (some) Olivia Dade for older characters! (Some Olivia Dade characters are still young :)
Morning Glory Milking Farm had no business being that charming.
Credence is so unhinged! When I finished it I was like, “I need to talk to someone about this book!”. My bf came through, read the book in a day and immediately called me for a debrief. It was the best
I had to search these comments and come back here to find mine to say thank you Molly and Amy (Abbey you too, I added it to my TBR). I read Morning Glory Milking Farm and I was very much put off with the premise at first and then came out on the other side feeling conflicted and warm and cozy! Ah!
‘The Well of Loneliness’ by Radclyffe Hall is one of the most beautiful, sexy love stories I’ve ever read.
echoing others here when I say I turned my nose up at romance, but tried ACOTAR last year and it had me in a chokehold. Fourth Wing, too. I’ve since moved onto contemporary romance. Romance gives me that new crush feeling and they provide an incredible dopamine rush! Couldn’t recommend leaning into the romance world more, while living under chaotic facism. My fave contemporary romances: -Book Lovers and Beach Read by Emily Henry -every Abby Jimenez book. They have all made me cry, too. -Snowed In and Holiday Romance by Catherine Walsh (Ireland setting) -How to End a Love Story by Yulin Kuang (INCREDIBLE, premise shouldn’t work and *somehow does*) -The Paradise Problem by Christina Lauren HAVE A GREAT TIME <3!
catherine walsh!! so second this- i recently found her and ended up reading all her books in a row. holiday romance and snowed in are my favorites. her characters are wonderful and i love the irish setting, and her books are sweet and sexy.
lovvvvve Emily Henry! And Catherine Walsh! which tells me I need to check out your other recommendations because we might have the same taste! :)
oh! and how to end a love story!!!! I just finished that one…soooo good!
Check out all the books by 831 stories! The ladies who do the podcast/newsletter A Thing or Two started it and all the novellas are AMAZING! Also, anything by Jessica Joyce, Lyla Sage, Sarah Adams, Jasmine Guillory, Alexis Daria, Mia Sosa, and Falon Ballard should satisfy the itch!
Love these recommendations and I do second the “long game that is female libido”. Especially during perimenopause and menopause. On that note, I would love to see some content on navigating perimenopause and menopause on Cup of Jo. It seems like there’s more focus on the childbearing years, but there’s so much to share, learn and connect over that other transition in our lives as women. Hoping that the Cup of Jo community can be a place I go to for comfort, inspiration and belonging for this part of my life, as it has been for my earlier years.
I feel ya Maria! I’m approaching 70 and thoroughly enjoy COJ. It’s keeping me, I’d like to think, hip. However I’m having such a difficult time with fashion, hair, etc. I’ll never be ready for polyester track suits, sensible shoes and blue tinted perms! Give me a pair of holey jeans, classic loafers, a sexy blouse and of course diamonds! Would love to hear thoughts and advice from my peers.
I had a long hiatus from reading when my daughter was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes and I suddenly wasn’t sleeping; either from her emergent middle of the night care or anxiety. A year in, as we starts to get the hang of things and settle into our new normal and my anxiety was starting to abate, I still couldn’t concentrate on reading and I really missed it. My dear friend mailed me a copy of Book Lovers and assured me – this I could read! She was right! Emily Henry’s books were the perfect light and sexy, but still real and smart, antidote to my reading block. After a quick dive in her oeuvre, I was back reading not only my newly discovered genre of romantic comedy, but the full breadth of what I’d enjoyed before.
Type 1 mom here and I just wanted to say I feel your pain. Seven years in my daughter is doing great but it takes a toll on your daily lightness of being. Sending unicorns (100 BG) your way!
You have to read Thirst for Salt, by Madelaine Lucas. The romance, the language, the deep of it. Beautiful.
I loved that too! You might like Wild Dark Shore. It’s amazing and beautiful
Ooh I have so many recs! Contemporary: Lucy Score, Stephanie Archer, Emma St Clair, Jenny Proctor, Catherine Cowles. Fantasy: Carissa Broadbent (Crowns of Nixaya series). Historical: Sarah MacLean.
I picked up 11/22/1963 by Stephen King again (my 3rd read, I think) and I still believe the first 50 pages are the best first 50 pages ever written. That beginning is amazing.
One of my top 5 books ever is Stephen King’s On Writing. So, so good.
I read a few of Abby Jimenez’ novels last year and then fell in a Jilly Cooper rabbithole. Despite some outdated and horribly sexist aspects of especially her earlier books I love them unapologetically. what fascinates me is the mixture of beautiful landscape and music descriptions, some scenes that moved me to tears, extremely highbrow intellectual jokes, the spoils of the English upperclass and all. the. sex.
Jilly Cooper is so fun! If you haven’t seen it already, I’d recommend checking out the TV adaptation of Rivals that came out a few months ago starring Aiden Turner and David Tennant. (I believe it’s streaming on Hulu.) It’s delightful!
T.V. yes I saw it! thats how I discovered the Rutshire universe. so much fun, nostalgia and sexy moustaches
I’m gonna mention Kennedy Ryan’s books. Specifically “Before I Let Go” and “This Could Be Us”, romantic! Third book coming out this year in this series
Second this.
Yes, and if you’re into her books then you HAVE read more of her books. Ah, so good. Specifically loved the Bennett Series!
Deep Cuts by Holly Brickley! The writing is so smart, the music references are so good, and the love story is so specific. Bonus for extremely satisfying female friendship and need-to-read-this-in-a-room-alone romance.
I just finished this last week and I immediately felt jealous of everyone who hadn’t read it yet. It’s so beautiful, fun, smart, and overall delightful!
Not Another Love Song by Julie Soto is easily the sexiest book I’ve read… And I’ve read a lot! The tension is perfection and the writing truly poetic.
I’m not really into romance/smut books…but I picked up the Cinnamon Bun Bookstore by Laurie Gilmore to see what all the fuss was about….and liked it! It’s kind of an anti romance, and the couple in question were very likeable. The sex scenes were more playful than graphic, and the characters were funny and imperfect. Set in a picturesque New England seaside town, it’s a seasonal Hallmark -ish romance with spice! Waiting to read the Pumpkin Spice Cafe…!
I just started reading romantasy (I’ve read ACOTAR and all the Fourth Wing books) and am soooo excited for more book recommendations on this thread. These books are such a nice escape from the dumpster fire of reality and have been amazing for my sex life!
Mhairi McFarlane and Katherine Center are great… One of my favourite books though is Prodigal Summer by Barbara Kingsolver. Not a romance author but there are definitely romantic parts and I love how empowered her female characters are.
Love Mhairi McFarlane.
Since I read it I’ve been saying that, even though it’s not a smutty romance novel by any means, Prodigal Summer is fundamentally all about sex!
Obsessed with Mhairi. Have read everything she’s written multiple times. It’s like rewatching The Office for me. Pure comfort. If you haven’t read Mhairi McFarlane yet, run don’t walk.
I love Mhairi McFarlane and she definitely doesn’t get enough love from romance readers. Love that you mentioned her!
The two books that come to mind for me are Shine On, Bright and Dangerous Object, by Laurie Colwin, about a young widow who falls in love with her late husband’s older brother, and Romantic Comedy by Curtis Sittenfeld, about an unlucky in love writer on a fictional TV show that is clearly modeled after SNL who falls in love with the very handsome and famous guest host, but keeps screwing it all up.
Your post prompted me to reread SOB&DO — I’d forgotten about it. It’s tremendous. This read, I wondered if I could ever have the awareness about myself as Laurie Colwin expressed through her characters. Thank you.
My favorite romance novel BY FAR is Georgette Heyer’s ‘Cotillion’. It’s in my top five books of any genre, actually. Heyer is regarded as the author who made Regency-era stories A Thing, and she wrote dozens of books, many of which are great, but ‘Cotillion’ stands alone. It’s SO funny and SO smart, and I love the way it includes all kinds of genre tropes—seductive rakes, exquisitely beautiful and innocent ladies, conniving relatives—but they’re all side characters. Meanwhile the main couple starts off as friends, spends the story enjoying one another’s company, and eventually realize they have fallen in love and that getting married is really the only sensible choice.
Cotillion is so much fun! I picked up a musty old copy for free at a garage sale and it was such a surprise! Also addicted to MC Beaton who may have exceeded Heyer in prolific-ness (is that a word?). I especially loved her traveling matchmaker series. Cobb South’s mysteries and Weaver series is another joy to binge on. From another era, the lovely writing of Barbara Pym. I’m savoring “Some Tame Gazelle” at the moment. It won’t have sexy scenes (single ladies of a certain age in unrequited love with unsuitable vicars) but it definitely demonstrates the lifelong pangs of desire and yearning for love.
I love Georgette Heyer! Her books are so fun. Although I’d argue that she made regency-era *historical* romance A Thing; Jane Austen did it first contemporaneously ;) My favorite is The Grand Sophie, but I haven’t read Cotillion …yet!
I LOVE Georgette Heyer! My great-grandmother was a fabulous lady who lived to 107, and my grandmother said when she cleaned out her house after she passed away, she found five copies of Heyer’s Reluctant Widow, some held together with rubber bands.
So glad you mentioned Georgette Heyer!! I love her romance novels. I was scrolling through here wondering why no one was mentioning Jane Austen. Is she not popular anymore? Finally, my favourite (other than Jane Austen novels) classic romance is North and South by Elizabeth Gaskell. Its brilliant!
I was hoping someone would mention Georgette Heyer. I have all her books, but somehow can’t place Cotillion. Favorites are The Talisman Ring, which is so funny and has a lovely combination of a young impetuous couple falling in love and an “older” pair finding romance also, in a more real and wonderful way. And The Masqueraders, where a tall, very sober nobleman gradually realizes the young man he’s championing is a girl in disguise. He’s so respectful of her independence. The Grand Sophy, Devil’s Cub, Beauvallet, and especially Frederica. So romantic and funny, with a HEA.
Coming back to add Charm City Rocks by Matthew Norman. Really sweet love story of a couple in their 40s.
I’ve only read one of her books, but Every Summer After by Carley Fortune was a perfect romance book for me- Summer, young love, the lake ❤️ Abby Jimenez writes great romance books and I love are good rom-com typically by UK and Irish authors- Jenny Colgan, Jill Mansell, Mhairi McFarlane are some of my favorites.
oh…you have to read this summer will be different by her as well…and I am not just saying that because it’s set in PEI and I’m from PEI. Heehee. It really is good! :)
I can’t recommend Glynnis MacNicol’s I’m Mostly Here to Enjoy Myself – One Woman’s pursuit of Pleasure in Paris enough! It’s an incredible book! I want every woman I know to read it.
Love that book!
The love story that haunts me is Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller (sob!) The favorite very steamy read is The Roomate by Rosie Dana My favorite romance is the three book “Brown Sister” series by Talia Hubert I also loved “One to Watch”, anything by Emily Henry, ‘Romantic Comedy’, anything by Alyssa Cole, “Seven Days in June”, anything by Elissa Sussman, I started reading romance novels when I had chronic health issues and my kids were babies. It really helped to dissociate from pain with a good book and connect with my sexual self at a time when I was ‘touched out’ from kids. I’m also an ex-evangelical and reading stories about relationships that include emotion AND physical connection was healing. However, the more I read romance the more I’m inclined to say- I don’t need a reason! It’s okay ❤️
Omg yes Song of Achilles, so heartbreakingly beautiful, I cried for days thinking of that book.
Thank you Emily O! My library has The Roommate and I’m grabbing it this morning. Need to pass about 1.5 hours worth of waiting rooms today and this will be perfect.
yessss Talia Hibbert!!!
I absolutely loved Song of Achilles- I finished the final page, closed the book, cried for 5+ minutes, then decided to open the book again to start at the beginning. Not sure what else to say- couldn’t get enough. Loved it so much.
OMG I live to provide romantic/sexy book recommendations! -Contemporary romance: Anything by Abby Jimenez; Beach Read and Book Lovers by Emily Henry; Thank You for Listening by Julia Whelan; The Bodyguard by Katherine Center; The Roommate by Rosie Danan -Small town romance: Anything by Elsie Silver -Supernatural romance: Bride by Ali Hazelwood; The Ex Hex by Erin Sterling -Romantasy (romance in fantasy settings): ACOTAR (as mentioned) but also other series by Sarah J. Maas (Throne of Glass, Crescent City); Quicksilver; Fourth Wing; Zodiac Academy (somewhat dumb but oddly compelling) -Sports romance: The Off-Campus series from Elle Kennedy; Deep End by Ali Hazelwood -Reverse harem/why choose (one woman with 3+ men): Pucking Around by Emily Rath; Triple Duty Bodyguards by Lily Gold -Unhinged but delightful: Lights Out by Navessa Allen; Morning Glory Milking Farm by C.M. Nacosta -Literary: The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller; The Ministry of Time by Kaliane Bradley
an excellent list! i love all these recs. Bride had me like…am I into vampire porn now?
Perfect list! Just came to here to emphasize Elsie Silver and add Lyla Sage!